Is it normal to not want to find myself?

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You know theres this whole thing where it's encouraged to go and be free and find yourself especially after a breakup. Well what if I dont want to do that? I feel so comfortable with how I am right now and who I am with right now, I dont want it to end. But then yes I do have many goals and I dream big but for some reason, theres this fear in me that I'll be missing out on really valuable things such as my relationship with my bf right now, or just the solitude I have like me writing on here, being on my own, doing whhat I want, etc. You know theres times when people who have amazing lives explain how great it is to finally lay back and have some time for yourself. Im like I dont want that to happen to me. I dont want to miss out on being comfortable. But I also dont want to miss out on great adventures either. In a way, I feel like I know who I am already and if I go on this journey to "find myself" Im gonna lose touch with myself and actually defeat the purpose. I guess Im just so intimate and personal that I dont want nothing to distract me or get in my way.

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  • flamer180
    8 years ago

    Look, give it time. You can be comfortable with someone and ALSO go on adventures. Just because your with someone doesnt stop you from doing what you want ;)

    You can even do it with your bf/gf if you want :) Which would probaley make it even better <3

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  • NathanScot
    8 years ago

    Your qn can be simply answered by this statement.
    It is better to regret things you have done than to regret things you didnt do.

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    • flamer180
      8 years ago

      Or to have no regrets at all like me. I have none.

      I make a mistake, I do. I move on. Regrets dont get in my way of enjoying life.

      You dont have to live with regrets. Make a mistake, learn from it possibly, and move on.

      But regardless in all this, I do what I feel I want to do. If thats waiting for someone I love, then so be it :)

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    IMO the saddest thing would be to be laying on your death bed, regretting the things you hadn't done.

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    • PlebolaVirus
      8 years ago

      Or the things you had. Like spending your whole life in a basement arguing with kids on the internet all day.

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      • flamer180
        8 years ago

        XD hahaha

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