Is it normal to not want to change even if you're in love with someone?

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So far from my experiences, it feels great to be vulnerable and have someone make such an impact on your love life. In my past relationships, I did like who I was with and felt happy but never wanted to change whatever it was they had a problem with. If they didn't like something about me, I wouldn't change it. Basically I'd be like "oh well." In my current relationship, for the first time I feel vulnerable and willing to change some things of me in order to make our relationship better. But when it comes to my partner, it seems like they wnt change no matter how crazy they are for me. So can someone be in love and still wnt change for them? Especially guys...Ive heard over and over again how if a guy isn't vulnerable for you and change a little here and there, he's not that into you and its gonna take someone else, someone special to change him. Is that true? Looking back to my experiences, it seems true because I've never been in love until now and I am willing to improve on some things if theyre not making my relationship better.

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  • VinnyB
    9 years ago

    Did you really need to repost this again the very next day? Reworded a bit, but the same basic concept, and some things are word for word. I think you should leave him. If you obsess about things this much, you would be doing him a tremendous favor.

    http://isitnormal.com/story/iin-for-him-to-not-want-to-confront-me-199159/#comment-2010628

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  • theseeker
    9 years ago

    I think the reality is you're never gonna find a "perfect" person just how you want them to be. For a serious relationship to work there has to be give and take on both sides. I think it's true a guy will change if and only if he truly wants to make the relationship work. If both sides aren't completely committed I don't believe a happy relationship is possible.

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  • Freedom_
    9 years ago

    No one can make you change but yourself. You could find the perfect person and have a need to change, but if the timing is off you probably won't even realize that this person could be beneficial to your improvement because you're not ready for it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I guess timing is just the case here.

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