Is it normal to not want to be with someone cause of their ex?

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I recently started talking to a guy. Its been kool so far, nothing wrong except my feelings aren't just there for him. I know now when my feelings are present with love because the last guy was my first love. I still love him and I remember when I was seeing him, how passionate I was for him. This new guy, well he has an ex and she happened to be crazy about him, just like how I was crazy for my last guy. She does know about me and to be honest, I feel terrible...because I empathize with her. I can't imagine seeing my love with another girl who looks at him like average kind of how I see the current guy when his ex loves him more than anything. She probably feels jealous but not the crazy jealous, just that feeling of "that could've been me and she can't love you like I do." I don't think I can take this thing with this guy any further, not just cause of his ex, but I really don't see anything much w him because now I'm just waiting for someone to give me that instant feeling like my last guy did. And unfortunately he didn't. He's a nice guy and seems interested but that's it. Its hard going from someone you love to someone you just are kind of interested in. So that and plus, he probably had something special in front him and I wanna give them another chance...I guess do for them like I would hope would happen to us. I can't take someone else's love just like I wont be able to take it if someone took my love.

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  • WhiteStallion
    9 years ago

    I know the feeling when you break up with someone you were head over heels for but totally not over yet so that the next partner just doesn't do it. Seems you're just on the rebound with this guy and it would be a good idea to leave him as long as you have the heart to do that. I don't think you should worry about his ex at all though in making your decision. Its just between you and him.

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    • JJM19
      9 years ago

      This guy/gal nailed it. You aren't ready for a new relationship. And that's completely fine, take your time.

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  • deepthought33
    9 years ago

    I love the amout of empathy I'm reading in your post.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    You sound young though. Go for it anyway. U have plenty of time to make mistakes and find ur soul mate

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Uh. Not cus of his ex. It's cus u don't love him.

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  • DubstepismyMJ
    9 years ago

    Thats sad but beautiful in its own right. You sound loyal, thats a great quality, but both you and him have relationships that didnt work out FOR a reason.
    I suggest you give him a chance. Atleast.
    Remember, feelings takes time to grow.

    You need to fully close that door to your ex, honestly or else you won't ever fully love the next another person, and that would be unfair on him. Not only that you may find yourself in a loveless relationship. Full of heartbreak and emptiness.

    How do you fully close that door you may be wondering? Your heart already knows. You just gotta listen to it.

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