Is it normal to not want to be in a relationship with someone you really like?

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So, I've known this guy for a couple years. We recently started hanging out a lot more often. I think he really likes me. And I like him as well. We hang out all the time. At least 4 or 5 days a week. He takes me out for dinner, we do things together. And just recently we've started sleeping together (both sleeping, and sex). In my opinion he would be an excellent boyfriend, and he is a really good catch. Awesome personality and super sexy.

BUT, for some reason i just don't want to be in a relationship. I don't know why. For the past couple of years I have been fucked around a lot by one certain boy. He was my first love and he broke my heart.. I don't know if this has anything to do with the way I feel now.. But I really don't want to lose this guy i've been hanging out with, because I think he's a REALLY good guy.

WHAT IS THE MATTER WITH ME!!!
Should I give myself more time?
Should I jump into something if i'm not sure if I am ready to deal with the outcome..

..help me please

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  • anya07
    13 years ago

    Its because you are broken hearted.You think that this one will be the same.If you want to be with him then be or else you will act like that and one day he will get bored and go.God gives you second chance use it.Not all guys are bad

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Dude that is verbatim the same situation I am in all I can say is that if he's good to you be good to him most relationships that were where a guy fucked you over was at least exciting maybe being content and comfortable isn't as thrilling but love is supposed to be tender and sweet and slow moving at times. All I can say is buy the ticket and take the ride almost always it's worth it. Especially if this guys as cute as you say ;)

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  • ToriahnaChristine695
    13 years ago

    Of course it is normal!

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    ho

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  • weresmycargone
    13 years ago

    Let him know how u feel or hearts could get broken and love could turn in to hate

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    It's hard to trust if the relationship before didn't turn out well. You should rather just explain to the guy you're with now that maybe you need to wait a while or something. . . he should understand =)

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  • onlyemperor
    13 years ago

    mb you are afraid that if smth goes wrong your relationship will never be the same as now

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  • michaelelif
    13 years ago

    You'll get married, have kids, become bored then divorce before you know it! Enjoy your self while you can...stay single!
    Love and peace Michael XXX

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    no i don't want to hook up with anyone else. it's a really weird situation. he probably thinks i want to, that's why i don't want to date him, but that's not the case at all.

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  • StupidAngMo
    13 years ago

    This is perfectly normal and you are wise to not want to rush into anything. You sound really sweet, you want to hook up on the days your not going out with this guy?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    It's normal, you just don't want to lose all the advantages of being single.

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