Is it normal to not want a relationship with someone after thinking about the c

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There's a girl I like but after looking at her Facebook I realized that there would be a good chance that there would be pictures of us posted and her friends would judge me.

She has a picture of an ex and people said how cute they were together.

I am not excessively attractive, but I'm no elephant man either. But I feel that if my picture were to be shown on her Facebook with her 2000 friends looking at it, I would be made fun of.

I want to be with her because she's attractive and I like her personality, but I don't think my feelings are reciprocated.

We get along just fine when we talk, but there's no hanging out outside of that, but that might be my shy attitude.

Plot twist, we work together. And I might be her future manager if the store manager wasn't blowing smoke about wanting me to be a shift lead.

So, recap on the question at hand.

Is it normal to question my interest in a relationship with someone when thinking about it being shared on Facebook and the like?

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  • victorygin
    8 years ago

    I can completely relate to your attitude. How did it become normal to share pictures of your closest friends, without their consent, with the rest of the world? Or even with your other 2000 closest "friends"? It's weird.

    So I would be pretty turned off by this to begin with. It's a legitimate concern in my opinion.
    If you really like the girl and things progressed, you could always just tell her not to post pictures of you (she probably will anyway, though). So you'd have to just ignore it and don't look at them. It's not a big deal to everyone who posts these pictures, so maybe it shouldn't be for you, either.
    Personally, I'd find it hard to be with someone like that, because it's a symptom of a much bigger fundamental difference between us.

    So, yes I think your reaction is normal.

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  • Shackleford96
    8 years ago

    I don't think you should give up your pursuit of her in favor of your (possible) promotion. That's just my opinion, but it does sound like you are more interested in her than the possible job opportunity.

    If anything, you should try to get her to hang out sometime outside of work and see how things work out. As for the pictures thing, you will probably have to let her know (when it inevitably happens) that you DO NOT like your picture being taken or shared on social media and she needs to respect that. You'll have to make a very clear boundary, and she may not like/understand that. People who are like that don't usually think anything about 'sharing' everything they do and anyone they are with. To them it just seems like a normal thing.

    Personally, I can't stand that type of behavior in people...

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  • pyrofox
    8 years ago

    I say wait to date till she moves out of the work place at the very least save your self the embarasing statement " manager dates co worker " but then if she's good with the relationship it's good

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    If nothing else, the fact that you work with this girl, should be all the reason NOT to make any move on her. If there is the remotest possibility that you may become her boss, then that pretty much seals the deal.
    If you are smart enough to become the boss, you are smart enough to know that you shouldn't become involved with a coworker.

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    • Neuria
      8 years ago

      I don't even know how I got offered the possibility of promotion, I just do my work and treat customers right. It's fast food, so it might just be that I'm the smartest regard.

      My real problem with dating is that I never go out to do anything so I don't meet people, that's why I only have a few friends.

      My goal in life used to be to just make enough money to be able to play video games all the time. Now I'm afraid of being lonely.

      I'm conflicted and I don't know what to do to fix it.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        Whatever you enjoy doing for fun, there are others who also enjoy it. Find out where they congregate and go there. If you are with others with whom you have things in common, then it's easy to make friends.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    2000 friends? Why would you want to date her anyway? .-.

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    • Neuria
      8 years ago

      She's really cute, nice bubble butt, cool personality and seems really chill.

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