Is it normal to not text for a while?

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Guys have this bad habit more than girls. So I wanna know, what is a good reason for guys to give you the silent treatment for a day or more? What gives you the need to do that? The typical guess why they're not testing/calling is because they are not into you. Yet, guys say girls are crazy to think sucha little thing like that makes a big impact. So then if its not a big deal, why do guys decide to just not contact their partner that particular day or more? It seems stubborn and selfish to just not think of the other person and let them know they're having a bad day maybe or just something. Do you need a breather? My dude used to do this often but not anymore. However, today and last night he just decided to not talk to me at all. We snapchat a lot and for those who know how it works, he posted like two stories today bout him playing w some guys but didn't text nor snapchatted me all day and last night after being so good to each other. What ticks me off is the last time he almost did not contact me was also the day after he went out at night. Like I said, if its not a big deal and girls look crazy when they worry about this according to guys, im curious what makes guys decide to be silent that day?

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  • disthing
    9 years ago

    Some people like:
    - space
    - peace and quiet
    - talking to different people instead of the same people day-in, day-out
    - to feel like they are free to come and go without notifying someone about their every move

    We're fucking surrounded and hounded constantly by communication devices, allowing people to demand our attention 24/7, wherever we are, whatever we're doing.

    In a relationship, that means a particularly needy individual has at their disposal a million and one tools of social interaction to prod and pester their lover all day long. Calling, Facebook messaging, texting, emailing, snapchatting, skyping...

    Sometimes, it's nice just to NOT TALK.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      He is the type of guy to like his space and so am I. But my feelings for him are so strong, I just love knowing he wants to share what he's doing. It's like he wants to talk to me and that's it. So when he just leaves me hanging, I fear of him feeling he's bored of talking to me and if I keep texting or snapchatting him and I don't get a response, then I'll really feel rejected. So I just don't contact him at all until he does, but I also fear if I do that, he'll think I don't want to talk to him and itll be a cycle of miscommunication. He's also brought up how I take long to text back or don't text him at all. Like he is serious and I can't believe how double-standard he is being. So idk he's confusing but I alwaays remind myself why I like him and part of it is because he is not too attached like he's a regular dude. He's said that in the past, his ex wouldn't undersstand why he would spend his free time sometimes with his friends. I get it and I would love to give him his space but it does suck deep inside and it'll take over me and that's when I start feeling curious about why he is not communicating with me. Are you a guy? if yeah, do you think it's okay if a girl asks why did you not text me all day just because she's curious? not to bother but because she really just wants to know without being annoying. How would u take it?

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    I don't text or respond to people for days sometimes and there is no underlying motive. I just have a nice conversation over the phone or in person with them and then I can go off of that good vibe for a few days without needing to talk to them, unless I have a real concern. He could very well just be that type of person that doesn't need someone wedged up their ass 24/7 to be happy.

    Men are not complicated, nor are women, we all have different temperaments, but once you better get to know a person you'll realize how they work. You're not on the same page

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Well he is that type of guy but some cases suck like this one. I am just afraid that we'll eventually fade away because of not talking. I also fear that yeah, he needs his space and won't talk to me when he doesn't feel like it but he'll talk to me again when he does. I mean I feel like thats not fair. It's like the silent treatment then all of a sudden "I miss you baby!" This just confuses me. Idk if its real or he just tells me those things when he is feeling lonely.

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    • disthing
      9 years ago

      This, absolutely.

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