Is it normal to not know how to explain things?

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I remember my math teacher in HS once said, "if they can't explain it, they don't know it." But I think about it and I dont know...I kind of disagree. Personally, Im not a genius but yes I know things. However, I suck at explaining things. It's annoying because then it looks like I don't know what Im talking about. To be honest, I come off as "special" when I talk to others. Im trying really hard now to talk to people more and look them in the eye while explaning things but it's a struggle. So yeah I do know things but when I start talking about them, it looks like I "think" I know but I dont since I cant explain it. How can I prove myself when I dont know how to explain things? It might be a learning disability where when it's time for me to explain, I lose all the info in my head and can't explain it anymore. Does anyone else deal with this too? or has? Is it normal? What can I do to improve it?I really need to learn because its not like Im completely clueless; I know what Im trying to talk about but when I talk, it looks like I am clueless.

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    Ultimately the cure is more social exposure. Conversation is a skill that can be trained.

    Physically, don't tighten your stomach when you talk. That's a common anxiety response that shortens your breath. If your enunciation is poor, work on that.

    Mentally, your ego is huge and holding you back. It's what causes you to cringe and shame yourself days, weeks after social encounters that didn't go well. Learn how to kill your ego.

    Just keep this in mind: the key part of interacting is 'acting'.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Yeah I feel like I sound illiterate and it hurts my ego. I know I dont know everything but the stuff that I do know, that's what I take pride in and feel like sh*t when I can't explain it. Especially how people are so quick to judge and first impressions are everything, I feel as if I have no chance of redeeming myself.

      But I am trying to talk to people more and go up to them, and just do what you said, "act." Not in a fake way but just relax and be in the loop cause I have a problem where I feel like I put myself out of the loop and you know what they say, how you see yourself is how everyone else sees you. So by mentally putting myself in the loop, everyone will be on the same page and its actually worked.

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  • Wolverine99
    7 years ago

    The math teacher is wrong, showing your work isn't the same thing as understanding it. I still can't show my work, and I've re-written entire algebra textbooks. About explaining things: just make it easy to understand.

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  • Dorellia
    7 years ago

    it also happens to me.

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  • finn
    7 years ago

    My first language isn't English so when I translate stuff in my head and then speak, I sound mental. I usually take a moment and make sure all the words are straight in my head.

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