Is it normal to never notice people hitting on me?

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Now I'm not a stuck up jerk. I don't think of myself as really desirable so I never really notice when people look at me or hit on me. Last night the cashier at the grocery store was getting all up iny grill and I didn't even notice till my girl friend pointed out all huffily, that she was flirting and making eyes at me. I always need someone to point crap like that out Lol I literally NEVER notice. I kind of had a bad streak of asking women out before my current gf and I got together so it kind of smashed my already bruised ego, so I never really even look at other women.

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  • shuggy-chan
    9 years ago

    Well hells, if someone was hitting on me, I'd just hit them back! WHAMMO

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    I have the same issue. I like to assume that most males are "just being nice" but then they ask me out and I realize that they must have interpreted my interest in the conversation as interest in THEM and well, then I feel like an asshole for wasting their time.

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    • Nokiot9
      9 years ago

      That's the fine line I have a hard time seeing. When someone, especially women strike up a conversation and seem interested. Men are Much more direct than women I feel. Like, if I'm approached by a guy there is no question for me when they'reiinterested you can 100% tell.maybe its just because I am a guy and it translates easier idk... but with women... holy hell. Its like a rubix cube just to get a phone number. Where men just peel the stickers off and place them how they want and women make you do it the right way. Its almost unheard of to have a girl say 'ur hott. I want you' or ' wanna go out?' In such a direct way. But I enjoy a challenge. If i didn't, I'd probably be totally gay lol

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  • derpyderp
    9 years ago

    I've had similar problems in the past.
    Sometimes missed it altogether then realised later what had been happening, sometimes thought the girl is flirting then decided I'm just fucking delusional...

    One of my exes was a gorgeous girl who moved in next door to me.
    Every time I was out the front talking to mates, washing cars or whatever she would suddenly appear, say hi & do something random out the front of her house.
    We'd have little chats but I never thought much of it until my mate who was out front with me a lot tells me one day he thinks this girl is really keen on me.
    I started actually paying attention & he was right.

    Ended up having a chat with her the next day, decided to try my luck & steal a kiss & ended up going out with her...

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    • Nokiot9
      9 years ago

      There's this girl in my apt complex that always seems to appear whenever I'm walking my dog out there. I think that's the easiest one for me to spot besides the constantly touching of the hair. I'm bad at catching signals. Lol I'm so stupid sometimes.

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  • la_uva_mojada
    9 years ago

    your gf needs to get a clue else you will eventually get sick of that shit.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Cashier was all "how are u today? Doing anything fun this weekend? Any plans? Oh no! You nose sounds all stuffed up? You're allergic to cats? No just makes ur nose itch?" And so on... Lol I'm so bad at taking hints. I think I'm just oblivious.

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    • kupokupo
      9 years ago

      The initial signs of attraction will always be the same: laughing at your jokes, lots of eye contact, deliberately keeping the conversation going or finding reasons to talk to you, etc. These are deliberately ambiguous, as if the girl is flirting with you then she'll want some kind of positive reciprocation before things escalate. Guys often worry that the girl isn't flirting and hence don't take things further, wondering things like "how can I be 100% sure she's into me?" The answer is you can't, but she can't be sure you're into her either. The whole point of flirting is *not* putting all your cards on the table right away, so the only logical thing to do is to flirt back.

      Now this is why I wanted to reply to this comment rather than post my own... If she's on the clock - a cashier, intern, etc - then throw all of that out the window. She's only being nice since the situation requires it.

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      • Nokiot9
        9 years ago

        She does it to me every single time too. I didnt even think about it till my gf got mad at how she was looking at me. Same thing woth the girl that lives under her condo. I was carrying all her crap up the stairs and she yelled at me for how the woman was looking at me... maybe i just have a jealous gf with an overactive imagination because i doubt any of these women were rrreeally hitting on me. But yeah. I've learned my lesson asking people out at their place of work no matter how well I think I know them. It never goes well because they feel trapped.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Imagination is such a wonderful thing, as is self delusion.

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