Is it normal to never be compatible with your sibling?

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I'm pretty sure it is normal but its just difficult being with someone that as a person u don't like but you're stuck with them by blood so there's this natural love you will always have for them. What do you do though in reality? Just separate or keep trying to work it out even though it gets tiring? My older sister and I have had a very rocky relationship and although were older now in our twenties, there's still this tension that I know we both feel and if its still there, I think its going to always remain between us.

The thing us we have always competed with each other, jealousy, trouble with accepting the other and its always so hard to deal with. My main problem or concern w her is it seems like she hasn't been able to accept me for who I am. Its almost as if she wants me to be this certain person so she can feel better about herself. Whenever I do or say something unfamiliar to her she looks at me funny but when she does the same thing, yeah its weird but I accept it and move on. She's also really double-standard. I've confronted her that she's not perfect and she always justifies her mistakes and yet points out when I did the same mistakes as her its worse.

I don't think she is never going to understand or accept me and being away from her when I went to college was great. I think long distance made us cordial and once I got back, slowly we got annoyed of each other again. So what can I do? I've told her to let's support each other but her actions speak the same....What can I tell her the next time we clash? We haven't clashed in a while and I almost wish we would so I can just let go all of this frustration.

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  • Neuria
    8 years ago

    Do something small to tick her off then when she bursts, tell her she is bitching for nothing. For best results, make sure parents are around.

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  • Elixis
    8 years ago

    It's not healthy to go through your life endlessly clashing with a sibling. Of course they're family, and no one is lucky enough to have positive relationships with all of them.
    You and your sibling need to talk it out, and use nonviolent communication. You need to tell your sibling how you feel whenever you two have conflicts, and avoid giving blame to any party or using words that may cause her to act defensively. You two have to exchange your feelings, then outline how each of you can improve your actions around each other. If you can find a middle ground, then you can start losing the rivalry and become really good friends.
    The process might not happen immediately, but if you two have more of a connection with each other's feelings, then you can start repairing your relationship. Hope this helps :>

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  • Redcoats
    8 years ago

    Not necessarily. I don't like my cousins, aunties or uncles.

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