Is it normal to move to another country?

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My boyfriend and I live in separate countries. The problem we have is that we don't know whose country to live in. I really want him to come here, but I don't want to be selfish. We met online and have been together for one year, yet we have known each other for 3.

I just want to do what's right for us, and letting him go just isn't an option. We tried to separate assuming that maybe we would be better off without each other and we realized we deeply love each other. We would do anything to be together.

I live in America and he lives in the Netherlands. I can tell you, long distance relationships are not easy, and the visits are even harder. I haven't established a successful career yet and neither has he. I don't know what to do at this point.

I wonder if I should continue college and pursue the career I want because I know what I want to be. My boyfriend does not. Granted we won't be able to move ASAP, but in order to start our lives together, I don't understand how else we can be together.

The visits end up being about $2,000 for a month. That's the plane ticket, the hotel, and the food because we both don't live on our own yet.

I'm working on saving up and getting a decent job while I finish college and live with my dad in order to make money. But like I said, a lot ends up going towards these visits. He told me he was scared and I understood that because I am too. But what else can we do?

Maybe you two should break up 11
Maybe move to another country together 8
He needs to move to America 9
You two still need to talk it out and decide 24
Move to the Netherlands 13
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  • IDiGAFi
    10 years ago

    None of those options. These so called "visits" you mention don't actually determine anything. You two need to take a really really long trip together (I mean, 2 months minimum) and then you'll have a wider view on things.

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    In Amsterdam you can go window shopping for hookers and smoke weed, what more could you want.

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    • Bumblebee2013
      10 years ago

      Can you actually window shop for
      Hookers? I just thought that was what happened on movies

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      • handsignals
        10 years ago

        No dude, they have a street were the girls are in like a window display. they dance around and you walk up and down the street and pick the one you want. Also there are other streets were the woman stand out on balcony's, it's a bit like Romeo and Juliet but in the morning you have no money and chlamydia.

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  • q25t
    10 years ago

    I won't try to pretend I know what's best for you, but I would finish college before trying to make any decisions about location. The financial hurdles in this are likely the largest so education to hopefully get a good job is key.

    Good luck.

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  • dinz
    10 years ago

    It isn't an easy decision to just uproot yourselves and move to another country (let alone a new house) due to the financial restraints.

    All I can advise you is to talk to your partner and discuss viable options but remember compromises will be key to trying to over come your fairly large hurdle.

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  • o_0
    10 years ago

    I think you guys should first give time to your career and a better life.. when you said you guys aren't even stable and independent enough I don't think its sensible to think about a relation at this stage.. just get busy with how can you make your self more better and self reliable and along with that keep in touch.. maybe while you guys are getting more mature you realize you should not live together or if still you love each other and want to be together than only think of getting ahead with this matter... moreover you guys can try to find jobs in the opposite country the one who finds a better one should move and if its about getting used to with the place.. its natural either of you who migrate will eventually get used to the place!! :)

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  • Doyourthang66
    10 years ago

    Talk about it.

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    Go live in the Netherlands. Trust me, on this.

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  • [email protected]
    10 years ago

    Both of you should enlist in the Egyptian military soon,instead.

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