Is it normal to make coffee date with someone at house then sleep in late?

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So I am on a study abroad in France and I met this guy from Sweden. He is cute but he is living with a friend of his here who is a girl. I found out they weren't seeing each other and since I have a crush on him I asked him out to coffee through text. He was slow to text and our schedules weren't lining up but at the last party I saw him at he asked me if I would like to do coffee at his house two days later, so I said yes.

Quick side note this wasn't the first time I had been to his house. Second I read about Swedish culture and it is common to have a fika "coffee time" with friends or potential dates. So just because I got invited to his house for coffee doesn't mean he is interested he could just be really friendly...

Anyways I showed up at his place and he was still asleep. His roommate let me in and we talked for a bit. considering it was the weekend and I myself was late I didn't see too much problem with his sleeping, but I was thinking that he probably wasn't too interested in me. After a bit his roomate went to wake him up and out walked a girl with him. I went super red and felt awkward since I had no idea he had a girlfriend.

So my question. Is it normal to invite somone over (opposite sex/someone showing romantic interest) forget they are coming and sleep in with your girlfriend? My friends think he is an ass. I don't know of I just missed something. Still interetsed in being his friend. Could it just be a cultural thing?

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    I need some coffee to finsih this story.

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  • Orangebean
    11 years ago

    Even if he intended you as a friend, it is still wierd to sleep in when expecting company.. Especially with their girlfriend in their bed with them. In any culture, that is rude and not socially acceptable.

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  • mashkeyboars
    11 years ago

    Thanks for your comments. He suggested the time and day and place, then I agreed. So we had a set time to meet.

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  • dinz
    11 years ago

    A coffee doesn't automatically imply a date of some sort OP. Maybe it was just a friendly token for you to get to know him outside class.

    However I think it was inconsiderate for him to not be ready to host you when you arrived at his house. Did you two organised a specific time and date?

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  • Caryopteris
    11 years ago

    This is a popular guy that has all the girlfriends he needs, and he is not going to turn down a woman who is into him, but he isn't going to change his ways for you either. Guuys love it when women hit on them, and that's how he sees the situation. You are just becoming a member of his fan club, in his mind.

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