Is it normal to make a big deal out of a 1 1/2 year age difference?

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My friend's Mother and Father keep getting her down about her 21 year old boyfriend (she's 23 but he's soon to be 22). They're 1 and a half years apart but the Mother says that's really weird, that he's too young for her, that she should find a man at least 3 years older instead. But this guy is mature and sensible and I met him. He's a university student with straight A's, he's polite and kind. I don't understand what her Mother is doing to her.

When I was last over her house with her and her boyfriend, her Mother even said something to the boyfriend like, "why are you with an older woman? wouldn't you want someone more your age or younger? I hope it doesn't feel weird for you." This gets me confused and upset for my friend and her Mother is also 50 and her husband is 60, so why is it so bad that a guy 1 1/2 years younger is dating her daughter wen her husband is 10 years older than her?

He never even thought there was an age gap but she's being really weird.

With people in hollywood and all around me dating guys who are 6,7..11 years younger, I don't understand how this woman has the audacity to say this to my friend's boyfriend. What is a year when they're on the same page mentally/maturity-wise?

IIN?

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  • TheTraumaWithin
    9 years ago

    She needs to chill out and realize some men are into women who know what they want.

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    You friends mother has issues. They should just ignore her.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    The fuck. I'd say I'm more experienced at 22 than I was last year at 21 but shit, not that much more.

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  • spacecase97
    7 years ago

    Older people have this thing where they always think the man should be older. It's irritating and your friend shouldn't worry.

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  • ZSP360
    9 years ago

    She needs to get over herself, especially if a three year difference is fine with the genders reversed!

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  • Couman
    9 years ago

    That's the same age difference between my parents (with my mother older) so to me it doesn't seem weird at all. I don't understand why anyone would make a big deal out of that.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Normally, I'm not a fan of older women with younger men, but with only a year or so difference, it's just numbers.
    If any relationship lasts into middle age, many women begin to feel that as their looks fade, their men seem to get more attractive, and this can be especially more marked in a large gap, older woman scenario.
    But a year or two shouldn't be of any concern.

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    • hauntedbysandwiches
      9 years ago

      Yeah, I think it's no difference at all and sadly, males die on average 7-10 years before women anyway so at least she'll have him a little longer!

      i.e my great grandmother's husband died at 70 when she was 55 and she's been alone for the past 40 years as she's loved no one else. Sad but that's why I think it's actually better to date slightly younger or the same age as it's beneficial in the long run as well. :)

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    • hauntedbysandwiches
      9 years ago

      Yeah, I think it's no difference at all and sadly, males die on average 7-10 years before women anyway so at least she'll have him a little longer!

      i.e my great grandmother's husband died at 70 when she was 55 and she's been alone for the past 40 years as she's loved no one else since. Sad but that's just another reason why I think it's actually better to date slightly younger or the same age as it's beneficial in the long run as well. :)

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    • hauntedbysandwiches
      9 years ago

      Yeah, a year is nothing but men die on average 7-10 years before woman so this is actually beneficial in that aspect at least. So if a woman dates an older guy by more than a few years, he will most likely die way before her and leave her alone for 20 or more years of her life. That's why in the long run, I think it's better to date younger or closer in age unless you don't mind them marrying another after you die/etc.

      I.E My great grandmother married my great grandfather who was 15 years older than her but she loved him to pieces. But when she was just 55, he died at age 70. She's been alone ever since for the past 40 or so years.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    1 year difference is nothing. The mom seems like a traditional idiot.

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    • shuggy-chan
      9 years ago

      Opposed to those new wave idiots XP

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Your friend is normal, her mother is not.

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