Is it normal to love your best friend?

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Ok so I've known this guy for 5 years now. We met on an online game and hit it off from there, then a few months later he gave me his facebook and we have been chatting everyday since. Turns out hes in the same country as me and around a 10 hour drive distance from me. I have visited him throughout the years and have developed a crush on him around 2 years back.

Problem was he was already dating a girl, and I tried to be happy for them but I was really jealous. A few months later they break up, although I felt happy I also felt guilty for feeling that way and helped him through the breakup.

My love for him has grown much more, although we do flirt with eachother occasionally its only as a jokey way and I feel like he only considers me as a friend.

We always joke around with eachother so sometimes its a bit difficult to know if hes serious or not, like one time he asked me on a pretend date so this girl would stop bothering him.

Recently he has broken up with his other girlfriend, and has been joking for me to take her place. I've never told him how I feel about him, and I'm scared if I tell him I love him he would tell me he only likes me as a friend resulting in the friendship becoming awkward. I'm so scared if I tell him that I'll lose him but I love him so much I don't know what to do.

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  • icanteven
    8 years ago

    hmm, that sucks.
    i think its worth the chance, i mean if he likes you back, youll most likely forever be happy in his arms.
    and if he doesnt then, youll know and youll be able to get over him:)

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  • KingTermite
    8 years ago

    Um, yeah... so one of the most salient points... your gender is missing. Almost any reasoned answer is going to be predicated on gender and orientation. Oh well, another useless OP. Good luck... I suppose.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      im a guy and pansexual my friend is into both guys/girls

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      • KingTermite
        8 years ago

        Interesting. Don't see too many around here that would even know the term "pansexual" so good for you finding out who you are and what you like.

        Personally, in a situation like this I would go slowly with caution, or alternately just jump and see if there's a net waiting to catch you.

        The slow is to avoid blowing it, therefore losing it. The jump is to find out and get it over with one way or the other. I'm more of a jump sort of chap so I know what I would do, but those are essentially your options.

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