Is it normal to love someone but they're not for you?

Is it normal to love someone but you guys are just not compatible? It hurts for me to finally say this but I'm starting to come to my senses I guess and realize I need to stop making it work with this guy. When you love someone, you will keep trying everything you can, it's just natural. But I guess there comes a point where you just realize its not meant to be even though you drew this image in your head of the future with him and it seemed legit because you saw great potential. When I met him, I felt like I knew him already. I felt like this incredible feeling that he would fit in my life and my family and my friends perfectly. Like the shoe finally fits. But then there are all these problems that you deal with and no matter how much you tried, you get the same results. I feel good that I never let my ego or anything else come in the way of me trying it out with him. It feels good to know that I gave it my all and saw real results. Besides that though, everything feels like shit. If only he can cooperate with me, if only he was crazy about me like I am about him. He says he is but his words don't match his actions. Last night is a good example.

Ive been trying to get him to come see me because I think of the two of us, he needs to prove himself more than I do. And after a few days, he finally came to see me in a way. He came to my city with his sister and her bf and decided to meet me "halfway." It felt good and a lot of effort for him especially that he was finally giving me a chance to meet his sister since I haven't been able to meet his family and he has met mine. But while we were together, he was acting like the asswhole he is. I would tell him things and he ignores them. He was giving me affection and being sweet here and there. He's a big jokester though, but it can get stressful when you can't tell if he's joking or not. He'll be like "oh" or even tell me to shut up. Like wait why the fuck do you make the effort to come see me just to tell me to stfu? I don't get where he stands or what he wants. It's like he doesn't even know himself if he really likes me or not.

I told him today how I bet he doesn't know anything about me and he jokes yet again and I told him "so you're using me" and he's like "what? nooo how?" then I explain that he just proved he doesn't know anything about me since he avoided it with a joke like he always does. Then he's like "I know a few things about you." A few? wow I think he just realized he doesn't know anything about me because he doesn't come off as interested in me and wanting to get to know me. Yet he makes the effort to come see me. I don't know where he is coming from. I'm crazy about him and his personality. I want him and I would do anything for him but I realized I don't like his personality if he's always going to be a jokester and not take me serious and make me feel lower than him. He is so annoying. Sometimes he'll show me he likes me and it surprises me but most of the time, nothing. To be honest, I don't expect much from him so when he does do something good, it surprises me. How can I tell how he really feels about me when he doesn't even realize how he feels about me? I want to let him go so bad because I don't like feeling like shit as much as I love him. But at the same time, I don't want to make a mistake and let him go, maybe he will make the effort. It has been more than a year with him but not exclusive for mutual reasons. is it normal to love someone who you don't feel compatible with?