Is it normal to love someone because they love me?

55% Normal
12 Comments

Well to be honest I don't really have much personality - no real hobbies, everything I do is to make others happy, that is the only thing that makes me happy. I'm content to just do literally nothing, or else whatever I'm supposed to do.

So, there's this person who has made me feel like they truly love me, even though we are nothing alike and they are kind of shitty to me. I can see that they are improving, though.

Anyway, is it normal that I'd be fine with them as long as they are nice to me? I can't really think of any other reason to love someone.

Voting Results
55% Normal
Based on 11 votes (6 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 12 )
  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    You should love someone because you love them. Not because they love you.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
      -
    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Well I do find them attractive and enjoy spending time with them, but normally I wouldn't be in a relationship with a person like this, or anyone really. but the way they are so loving is what draws me the most.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • redrainbow22
    6 years ago

    Well I mean, as long as they do understand that saying mean things is wrong, then everything between you two seems fine :)

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Hateful1
    6 years ago

    Nope don't know you. It's just how can someone make you feel like they love you when they treat you kinda shitty?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Idk, because they come from abusiveness and don't realize what they're doing is "wrong" until I tell them, then they feel genuinely bad about it (but I'm not too bothered tbh, I feel worse for what they went through)

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    In what ways is this person shitty to you?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Emotionally abusive but the thing is it's kinda justified and doesn't really bother me enough to leave them for good. It's kinda like if your child says something like "I hate you" out of anger but you know they didn't really mean it.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • RoseIsabella
        6 years ago

        How is this person's emotionally abusive behavior towards you justified?

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          Maybe not the best word, what I mean is it makes sense considering their background. They went through way worse and I feel really bad for them. They seem to have great difficulty expressing / understanding feelings to where they don’t even realize it’s abusive until they see how I feel about it, and then they feel horrible about it.

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
            -
          • RoseIsabella
            6 years ago

            ... well, they should feel horrible about it! I personally think some boundaries with this person are in order.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            1
            1
  • Hateful1
    6 years ago

    Do you read your post before posting them?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      No, why? Did you notice I usually edit them several times after they've been posted? I actually hate reading things I've written, it's so cringy and boring. But why do you ask, so suddenly? Do you know me somehow?

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0