Is it normal to lose yourself in your 20's?

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i had so much hope a few weeks ago, the most i had in awhile. i was taken steps to better myself but then a series of shit happened, and i feel like im back at square one. and now im not as motivated and ethusiastic about anything, my hobbies, interest, anything. im a bit depressed about it. i just dont know which way to go, and it feels like everything that ever motivated was a big fantasy. its like i dont know who i am anymore. im in my 20's and im feeling lost. i use to have all of these dreams as a teen, and never achieved one as an adult. its like the opposite happens. im tryna be strong and take nothing for granted but its a struggle. i have no support system either.

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  • Smokey1D
    7 years ago

    You can't sit around waiting for motivation to strike you. It doesn' t work like that. Sometimes you just have to force yourself into action and persever with it. Keep doing your new actions as long as you can and you actually start to like it and feel.motivated to do it.

    Like going for a run each morning. I hate the thought sometimes...but I force my feet out of bed and into my shorts and runners and start. I FEEL really good that I've done it when I get home.

    Start small - but make yourself do it , and get better at it and do it every day...then add something else. Eventually you'll have a few rhings to do that give you a reason to get started and keep you occupied.

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  • kristys_mail
    7 years ago

    Yeah I'm 25 and I'm feeling guilty about things I did in middle school. It all started when I found my ex on Facebook and it's been a downward spiral after since... Reexamining my life, trying to decide whether I should dump my boyfriend or not.

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    If it needed a name, it's called midlife ennui and it can happen a bunch of times in your life. Just keep in mind that misery is comfortable and easy: just don't do anything.

    But if you don't want to be miserable, if you want to be fulfilled, then you have to do more than just consume things. You have to create.

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  • JazzDiva
    7 years ago

    I pray, I read the bible, I go out. I dress in ways that make me feel good. I work multiple jobs while studying hard in college. My goals is to be the person I know I can be sucessful and goal driven. I have support systems through God that help me get to where I need and want to be.But you must also support yourself. If you dont feel sucessful or want to be you wont but, it does not discriminate.

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  • xfg30
    7 years ago

    it means you have no personality or interests.

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  • SeriousChipotlePirate
    7 years ago

    It's normal, my ex had this and when I found out, it was sad, she would rarely share these thoughts with me and that was maybe the reason she wanted to break up. What I'm saying is, yes this happens, its a struggle but its not all the time that dreams are made to become true and these times happen in a life, being lost, depressed, not motivated but it passes. Sometimes you want some "ME" time.
    If you had so much positive energy and hope once, don't let shit screw around with it, you control what you do and the shit should all just go down the drain.

    It might be hard, but it'll pass.
    and also, you have a support system, friends/family (Internet/phone lines). There's no reason for it to get you down, it happens.

    This is the weirdest way to say this, but the shit you go trough makes you stronger. No wonder there's a song about it.

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