Is it normal to like someone to hate how they look?

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There is this guy that I like and he really likes me, the problem is he is overweight. It bothers me because I am a very attractive woman and I've had people say to me, 'you could do better'. His weight is an issue for me, I try not to let it bother me but it does because it causes problems in every area of our relationship. the other thing is is that he is 5 years older than me and I'm further down the career path then he is. I am not a shallow person, I just want to be with someone who cares about themselves enough to stay healthy. I don't need a guy to be super fit or anything but healthy. What should I do because I really like his personality and can talk to him like no one else in my life. BTW: being friends with him is not a possibility (his choice not mine)

I should walk away 7
I should give the relationship a chance 15
I should tell him how I really feel and go from there. 14
I should tell him he needs to make life style changes 5
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  • CorruptedSoul
    7 years ago

    Give it a chance or walk away

    He deserves better than a superficial cunt

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    • Honeybuns35
      7 years ago

      Wrong.
      We have too many lazy fat fuckers
      in our society today.

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    If you want to get in a relationship, try and tell him to help change his weight.

    You two can always work on that. He should be willing. I want a girl who isnt fat either.

    I dont care myself if the girl is fat, but if she is I wanna work of helping her lose weight.

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  • Swarmee
    7 years ago

    Just move on and find someone who you find attractive, the fact he doesn't want to stay friends means that he would be ready to move on, you can't expect someone to change for you, there's plenty of fish in the sea and once he gets rid of you, he'll find someone else.

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  • Cookiecutter
    7 years ago

    Attraction to the person you like is super important in a relationship and what a dick move if you guys get together only if he loses weight. Your not shallow because you have priorities and preferences to the person you like. Just move on and find someone who you like and find attractive

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  • idontcaree
    7 years ago

    get him to start vomiting after meals

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  • felixy
    7 years ago

    Attraction is non-negotiable. It's also very shallow. This relationship was already over well before you asked this site. Do the harder but better thing by telling him what he needs to improve on before you leave.

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    • sillygirl77
      7 years ago

      I don't agree... I don't think attraction is non-negotiable and shallow for everyone... depends on the person. OP I'd give it a try

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