Is it normal to leave friends for boyfriend?

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I know it is not a good thing, but is it fairly normal?
I never thought this could happen to me and I always thought friends came first, but I enjoy being with my boyfriend so much that I almost unconsciously use all the time I used to spend with my friends with my bf. Due to this (completely my fault), I've sadly grown apart from most of them, except a few.
This scares me because 1. It sucks to lose friends, 2. If I ever break up I may end up alone.
I've tried many times to make a space for my friends, and I'm working on it, but anyways it's hard, and I've already lost contact with some of them to the point we are simply no longer friends and I don't know how to fix it.
Any advice? Similar experiences?

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Schedule time with your friends. If your boyfriend wants to see you at that time say, "No thank you I already made plans with my friends."

    Don't worry about being alone without a boyfriend, but rather understand that if you lose touch with your friends you will be at best alone when it doesn't work out with your boyfriend. At worst you will be friendless and stuck in bad relationship. If you neglect family and friends for the sake of your boyfriend any future loneliness will be of your own doing. If your boyfriend insists on always taking the lion's share of your time he could very well be needy, selfish, jealous, controlling and not worth your time.

    Try not to be codependent with this guy or anyone else for that matter.

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    I never understood this, somehow I managed to still hang out and have a life outside of my bf. It's about scheduling time for your friends and your boyfriend. When you do hangout with your girlfriends don't be stuck on your phone the whole time texting your bf either, be present with your friends, they don't have to make time for you and they wont if you continue to devalue the friendship.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    I stopped hanging out with some friends when I got a gf. One of my last exs, I stopped hanging out with all my douche bag friends that would get me into trouble, always teying to get me to cheat and get my gf to break up with me and just generally causing problems in my relationships, they'd totally ruined 2 previous ones by lying to my GFs talking them I cheated on them or was on drugs or a liar or something. I never really was told exactly what they said to Brittany that made her drop me. But I Fuckin KNOW it was them. Sometimes certain types of "friends" aren't good or healthy to keep around, especially when you enter into a loving relationship that is more important to you than anything in the world.i come to these conclusions on my own and have to on my own. Because if one of my SOs tried to force me to drop a friend, even if I knew it was a good idea, I'd dig my heels in because it's MY decision. I guess I'm stubborn like that.

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  • (s)aint
    9 years ago

    Well, I'm clingy. And I mean REALLY clingy. And iF I can have time for a BF and friends ...so can you.
    The thing that I do is that weekends are reserved for BF unless special occasions such as birthdays or planned events, during which my Bf can tag along if he so wishes. I see friends during the week.

    Since I have either had Bfs or FwBs since the age of 17 (six years now) the friends I have now are used to me being busy at weekends.

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