Is it normal to leave a marriage because you feel invisible

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My wife finds me fat and stupid/ ugly and no longer wants to have sex with me or share a room with me. I sleep in my mancave with my dog.She cuts me off when I try to have a conversation. She said that part of our marriage is over .I have never had an affair or anything like that. I am kind of ready to leave esp after she humiliated me on vacation in front of my boss and his wife and her sister.I am currently seeing a shrink but have tried being more romantic and being nicer but all I do is get treated like a dog. I have tried to tell my wife how i feel but get rebuffed.I went on a retreat recently and a lot of the women there liked me and gave me there phone numbers. I am seriously thinking of packing up and leaving but am afraid what people will think.I esp liked my bosses sister. I keep seeing her everywhere.But am worried maybe I am a bad person and the love will die like it did with my wife.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    I know you want cheat her, and I can certainly understand your motivation under the circumstances, but don't do it. Go see a therapist instead, and maybe look into seeing an a divorce attorney. You can suggest that ya'll see a marriage counselor together, but unfortunately you can't force her to work on herself or the relationship. Just do your best to work on both yourself and the relationship. Do whatever you can to work on and improve yourself not so much for your wife, but for your own self.

    I don't know how long ya'll have been having these problems, but it sounds to me like she's verbally and emotionally abusive as well as neglectful of you. Don't stoop to her level by doing something immoral or abusive, but do plan a way out of this bad relationship if you feel so inclined. Even if you want to stay with her it might be best for you to leave for the sake of your peace of mind and self esteem.

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  • donuthell45
    7 years ago

    yes. That is why I left mine years ago because I was sick of feeling like an undertipped waitress.

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  • Dreamsao
    7 years ago

    It's normal to want out of a relationship that isn't giving you anything you need to feel loved. Yes.

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  • Digsbie
    7 years ago

    Sounds like its time to bail on this one. You have the right to be happy, cut your losses and find someone who will treat you like you would like to be treated. ummm not sure the bosses sister is the best place to start!

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    You're fine. Just start the divorce process before finding another woman.

    Also, give youself time to heal from your marriage before entering another relationship, because you could run the risk of treating the new woman like your wife, being overly sensitive in harmless disagreements, or emotionally punishing the new woman for what your wife did. So build a support system of family/friends and your therapist, and heal once the divorce is final.

    Also, the negative opinions of others are irrelevant; your happiness matters most.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    If your in a bad relationship and theres nothing you can do to fix it you should probly get out. You only get 1 life don't waste it being miserable.

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  • massiveaccordian
    7 years ago

    leave. bang some hot chicks and let your bitchwife tell everyone how horrible you are.

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