Is it normal to lack self control?

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I have an issue that regularly comes up.

I get social security benefits and my mom is my payee, which means she get's my money because the state thinks I cannot manage my own finances.

Every week I get a certain amount on my account and I will see that I have so much money so I go and spend what I think I have.

Anyway I sometimes overdraw which causes an overdraft fee which causes me to argue with my mom over putting the money in my account. I tell her not to give me money or a card but I feel she enables me by doing it even when I say not to.

When I have gone to jail or get in trouble with the law she bails me out as well and I will even tell her how to deal with me by saying that I only do these things because I can get away with it.

I could give other examples like if I were to tell somebody I was going to kill them and they didn't believe me I would therefore have every right to kill them anyway I wanted because they should have listened to my warning.

I warn people I will do things anyways all the time but they never listen so it is their fault for not obeying my warning.

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NiniCool

9 years ago

You needs help for a professional. You can't demand so much from people...

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RoseIsabella

9 years ago

She should just give you cash money. However, other people aren't responsible for your mistakes. If you mom isn't doing a good job as a payee then you probably need to get a social worker to help you or something. I doubt any of this is your mother's fault.

What's stopping you from handling your own money? Do you abuse drugs and alcohol? For what are you getting arrested? What would you do if your mother weren't around to help you?

I'm not trying to attack you, I'm just curious is all.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  I do get cash money but I have a card too.
  I do have a bit of an alcohol problem but that isn't what's causing the main problem or why I have a payee. I also have a food problem and spend large amounts of money on food. Part of the problem with a card is it is intangible and I cannot see the actual money I have.
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    9 years ago
    
    It would probably help you a lot to quit drinking.
    http://www.aa.org/
    
    Regarding money management with the card, do you have an Android smart phone by any chance? I found an app called Easy Budget that has made managing my money so much easier.
    https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.apps.doublecoin.easybudget.lite
    
    I know it's hard to be on disability and live with whatever handicap you have, but I certainly hope you're grateful and appreciate what you mother does for you.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      9 years ago
      
      I know I could quit drinking if I wanted to, but I don't actually want to so I'm unlikely to quit.
      
      I do not have an android, or even a smart phone.
      
      I appreciate a lot of what my mother helps with but would also appreciate not having her be my payee because we get along better when she is not responsible for me. She has even said she doesn't want to be my payee for these reasons but the state assigned her as one since the doctors told them not to give me my own cash.
      
      I seem to do better when I have tangable cash that I can see. My mom seems to think I do not realize what I am spending when I actually do. In a way I feel like money is endless until its gone. When it's gone I simply have nothing to spend. I really don't regret spending it all on food and beer either because that is what I like to do with my money. The problem I'm having is that people want to tell me how to do things even when I tell them how I work and they don't seem to understand. I will say, don't put money in my account or I will spend it, and then she does put money in my account I will find out by checking online. Therefore I will spend it and overdraw because I feel like I have more money than I have and get another overdraft fee. This doesn't happen with cash because it can't. I don't like having cards but in a way I have been forced to own one since I'm not in charge of my money.
      
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handsignals

9 years ago

OP, you are a disease.

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dom180

9 years ago

If you frequently do things that you know you shouldn't do because you feel out of control, you need some sort of psychological intervention. I'm talking about counseling or therapy or even drugs. It isn't normal to lack control to the degree you do.

I don't think you should blame the people around you. It's one thing to be unable to take responsibility for yourself, but it's another to demand other people to take responsibility for you.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  I've been going to treatment most my life. I'm on 5 different psych meds and believe it or not this is me significantly improved.
  
  I don't expect people to take responsibility for me but I want them to take responsibility for themselves when I warn them what I might do. I'm not sure if that makes sense to most people or not but I feel like I am just being honest when I warn people. It took a long time for me to recognize that insight that my behavior may not always be normal so I try to warn people.
  
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  - noid
    
    9 years ago
    
    Good.
    
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thegypsysailor

9 years ago

Obviously you are not normal. Far from it! From your post, you make yourself sound like you should be institutionalized immediately. Perhaps your mom will get the idea soon and have you committed; it would be best for you and safer for the rest of us. Even if you are trolling, you are a very odd duck.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Where I live you cannot be institutionalized until you actually do something violent and get caught.
  
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OrangeApples.

9 years ago

Bitch

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- anti-hero
  
  9 years ago
  
  Cunt
  
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gashlover

9 years ago

I also lack self control when it comes to sex. I always want bjs, anal & vag all day every day. I watch porn all day on my phone. I spank too much. When I meet girls I just imagine their vag & bending them over and getting deep throat. Im hooked...

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- cupcake_wants
  
  9 years ago
  
  Typical male
  
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  - green_boogers
    
    9 years ago
    
    Have a heart, Ms. Cupcake. It's called testosterone poisoning, and it's miserable.
    
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    - la_uva_mojada
      
      9 years ago
      
      lol...
      
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