Is it normal to hide things in a fwb agreement?

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So I started to see this girl. We both agreed that we did not want a relationship or anything. Just casual sex from time to time.
I thought, great! I wasn't looking for any kind of commitment anyway.
Though if it could only had been sex and no talking...
We talked a lot. About everything really. I told her about my life and friends. Thing is that some of my friends, weren't just... Friends...
They were girls I had been with sexually. I chose not to tell her that, because I thought it would not benefit her in any way to know who I slept with...
So I sugarcoated, or LIED about it.
Since I'm a bad liar, she found out soon enough when I told her same thing, but another version... Also once she noticed I was a bad liar, she started to ask things we already talked about in the past. To see if I said the same thing or not. Didn't help that she went through my PC and social media Apps either, while I was sleeping, I tell you that...
Anyway. She went haywire! Telling me I SHOULD have told her EVERYTHING.

So is it normal to sugarcoat things with your FWB??
I mean. I tried to hide things from her because I only wanted us to have nice times together. And did not want her having undesired thoughts in her mind.
I never intended on playing her or hurt her in anyway.
I thought I was doing it right. I know that I didn't want to know who she'd been with and who not.

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  • LittleGirlRapedAndSodomised#Z1
    7 years ago

    It's normal to hide things in a Friends With Benefits understanding however everyone is your friend/enemy so perhaps we don't have a prob...

    Oh shit karma running out...

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  • Fall_leaves
    7 years ago

    Yes and no, if you were strictly fwbs and had no prior relationship then there would be no need to share those details. However, it seems like you had more of a relationship vibe going on, opening up and sharing things with her about your life.

    I can see where she would be upset over you lying to her about that but she took it to the extreme by snooping through your things. I've never once looked through another persons phone or social media account but have had it done numerous times to me and it's the biggest invasion of privacy. My ex used to look through my phone and read my messages and ask me who was texting me and it never occurred to me until now how fucked up that really is.

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  • FORUMidableFucker
    7 years ago

    Normal for a slut yes, but since you are a scheming man whore it is normal for you. You should have choose two different people that is all.

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    • LittleGirlRapedAndSodomised#Z1
      7 years ago

      Would you rape a BITCH?

      Would you Rape that scum sucking mother fucking whore-house BITCH.

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  • r0gga
    7 years ago

    Thank you for your reply!

    There were really no relationship vibe between us. At least not from my side. But I guess she wanted to know who she went to bed with.
    This was the first FWB I ever had as well. So maybe I was a bit blue eyed.

    The thing is she told me that she would not have been upset if I would have told her the truth from the beginning.
    But as stated... Why would I? What good would that do to her or our agreement?

    In general I'm a pretty honest person, because I know I'm not good at lying. But now she made me feel like the worst lying sob there is. Which makes me pretty torn to be honest....

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