Is it normal to have to get drunk in order to have sex with your spouse?

34% Normal
8 Comments

I can't have sex with my partner unless I get tipsy first. It's not due to lack of attraction. I just don't want to have sex at all unless I am impaired. IIN?

Voting Results
34% Normal
Based on 92 votes (31 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 8 )
  • weallhidestuff
    11 years ago

    Im not sure of your backround, but I agree forever anon, in my case it was just being raised in a culture of shame, I found it pretty much impossible to be to intimate without drugs or alcohol until I realized why, which was self medicating to get past my inhibitions, once I came to terms with that, I gradually stopped, took years because I had to to come to terms with this myself, didnt know about IIn lol...

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • imnotoverryan
    11 years ago

    I'm the same way :(

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • paula65
    11 years ago

    Its the opposite with me...If I drink I have a harder time coming to orgasm...

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • --ash--
    11 years ago

    Try a blind fold, rubber gloves & a peg on your nose, that will help

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • nelly96
    11 years ago

    I need to be drunk in order to even kiss someone, so I'd say that's normal.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • mevsyou
    11 years ago

    I feel the same. I enjoy getting drunk before sex. Not sure why, but it is fun. I say it is normal!

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • forever_anon
    11 years ago

    While drunken encounters in a safe environment (like in a committed relationship) can be fun, if you feel the need to use alcohol every time, it is probably a sign that you need help letting go of inhibitions. Think about what might be causing this. Do you feel self-conscious about disrobing for your partner? Or are there unresolved problems in your relationship that keep you from fully relaxing with your husband unless you're drunk?

    Once you know what the reason is, and you've addressed that, there are a few things you can do to make intimacy more comfortable. Try extending foreplay so you have more time to get in the mood. Also, work on steadily decreasing your alcohol intake before sex. For example, cut back to maybe 1 1/2 glasses of wine instead of 2 full glasses. Gradually decrease the amount from there. Try to get to the point where you can have sex while buzzed instead of drunk. With time, you may be able to enjoy intimacy without alcohol. But if the problem persists despite your best efforts, you may want to seek professional assistance.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Pussylover1
    11 years ago

    I don't have to get drunk it doesn't matter whose first as long as you are having sex then that's good cause I love sex and so should everybody else

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0