Is it normal to have sudden feelings of strangeness in a new relationship?

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So, this has happened to me a few times in the past, and it happened again recently. This is my most recent story:

I have known a girl for some time now. She is the friend of a friend, so we usually met at parties or get-togethers. We finally talked more at one point and had some chemistry, nothing out of the world, but enough to give it a try. So, afterwards we hooked up a few nights and things got more physical and intimate. Actually, I even started feeling a little more enamored towards her at this point.

The disturbing part comes now. We met to grab something to eat during the day. For the first time we actually met during daylight, in normal clothes and were just talking like two normal people. And the thing is that I was staring at her and just suddenly realized that I actually didn't know her at all. I felt as if I found her on the street another day, I could actually not recognize her immediately. I just felt like we didn't actually know anything about each other and that we were completely disconnected. And well, this whole situation just made me feel guilty, because it was as if I was having sex and getting infatuated with a stranger.

So, I was just wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar and get some opinions on the matter. So, is it normal?

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  • Tenderlovin
    9 years ago

    It's normal to have feelings for someone you had sex with. It sounds like it's just a shallow sexual encounter. I've had relationships where I felt like I barely knew the person I was with, I really liked them but not for any real reason other than that I enjoyed our intimacy in the bedroom. I stopped pursuing them though because it felt wrong like you said to sleep with someone I really knew nothing about.

    I tried getting to know some of them but idk it never really worked out there was that disconnect, because I hadn't known them very well before we engaged in sex. The times we did spend getting to know each other felt forced, even though there was a connection in the bedroom.

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  • perfectxsilence
    9 years ago

    It sounds like you had a false connection occur from the sex. This happens way too often and is from the endorphins that are released. It makes you automatically feel connected with the individual and it can even give you a false sense of love. You should google it if you want to learn more but this happens all the time and is why I always warn people. You probably don't even really have much of a connection but you can try to pursue it if you want just to see but I'd lay off the sex for a while just to clear your head.

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