Is it normal to have sex on the first date?

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So I met this random person on work. They gave me their number, a bunch of random gifts, and asked me out to do something. They kept saying they adored me even though they known me for like maybe an hour.

So I went on a date with them was kind of unsure of what it was. I was trying to figure out why some random person would give me free stuff but you know the saying. Don't look a gift horse in a mouth. So basically we went out to eat, saw a movie and they tried to have sex with me in the movie theater and I moves the hand away, than on the way back in the car.

So apparently the rules are the person taking the person out is to buy this person something nice, take them out somewhere and than you are to return to them six. I am 22 though and this would have broken my 22 year virgin streak. Which I was not going to lose on some random person. I mean I dont want kids with this random retard even if they did give me free things(Still got the shit yay!).

So anyways is this normal protocol? I had many partners that I was with(BF/GF) but they usually just kind of say "Hey I think you are pretty want to go out with me" and I either say "Sure ill be yours or no thank you". I dont normally go on formal dates but apparently dates are for sex right? not for finding a partner?

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hokisgurl

8 years ago | pl

Has it occurred to OP ? you don't OWE him anything ! ?? You don't OWE him a kiss, a hug or your virginity.From what you've said,the guy seems unhealthy in the head.Especially for trying to do things with you that are uncomfortable if you were a virgin or not.

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bucho's_butt

8 years ago

Have you ever seen the movie Fast Times At Ridgemont High? It's basically all about young people giving extremely poor dating and sexual advice to their peers. I think the opinions and advice that are coming from the users on this thread are about 100x worse than anything in that movie. You picked a very inappropriate venue for this topic.

I would look elsewhere for answers. Almost every man on this forum is too young to start looking for long term relationships, so they concentrate exclusively on "game" tactics to find a mate. If you're looking for a short term relationship, then by all means, fuck on the first date.

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NathanScot

8 years ago

It's actualy very normal love.Cher'

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Darktown_vs_Blackville

8 years ago

I always fuck on the first date. Well, first or second. If a chick gives any resistance early on, thats how i know to drop her and move on to the next one. If its not happening right away then its never going to happen, thats how i look at it

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- MeatHookSodomy
  
  8 years ago
  
  Huh. I'd almost welcome resistance I'd like to think but can imagine they dont resist because they assume I always get my way with women, that not being the way I see it but the way they see it so I always get my way... If that makes any sense... Woman are strange creatures but when you see why they behave in such a manner it's easy to realize as such biologicall they serve a completely different purpose then that of a man... Then we go "Ahhhh, I see why now..."
  
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  - Niggers_like_white_women
    
    8 years ago
    
    Exactly, also why equality is such nonsense.
    
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CforCourageous

8 years ago

You did right. Don't be pressured into sex early in the relationship. Just because our generation has set a sick standard doesn't mean you have to follow it. Stay pure

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  I did what? I didnt do anything. I was asking if this was the norm or not. Seemed like an appropriate place to ask given the title of website.
  
  The arrangement seems to be Party A gives Party B gifts, and takes them out to do an activity and in exchange party A gets SEX from party B. Is that the norm? Since if it is that would mean no one should ever go on dates unless they are willing to give up sex. This information is important to me since I need to understand the rules for the future. As to avoid these kind of confusions later on.
  
  I personally am not stupid enough to sleep with some random person at random. Sex equals babies and I am far too responsible to do something so stupid. I never actually go on dates. I thought these type of encounters were saved for people you meet at bars, not for someone you took out on a date. However if this is not the case I probobly had a better method of doing things before.
  
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  - CforCourageous
    
    8 years ago
    
    I'm saying you did right by not having sex. Anyone that would say it's normal to trade sex for gifts/money/etc is wrong
    
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      8 years ago
      
      I guess, but I wondering if I am a bad person for keeping the PlayStation.
      
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theseeker

8 years ago

Sex on the first date isn't uncommon these days, so I suppose it's normal, but doesn't mean that it has to be the expectation in all cases. For me, sex on the first date won't happen unless the girl is a "slut" because I'm not that confident and hesitant about initiating things. Especially, when meeting a girl for the first time.

I think on the first date you can tell whether the person is looking for just sex, companionship, or both. From my perspective, girls who are aggressive and want sex on the first date are fun to be around, but I don't consider them anything more because there's no way I could ever trust them. Truth is I'm actually more interested in girls that are classier.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  I think you can tell too. I went on one with someone and they kind of seemed like they were in a hurry to get to doing dirty things and wanted me stop talking. I was kind of annoyed.
  
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RoseIsabella

8 years ago

Naw, he was just a jerk and creep. Forget about his greedy ass.

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sexysonofsam

8 years ago

Why are you speaking of your "date" in the third person? were "they" twins or something?

But to get back to your point, what is the big issue with being a virgin? Are you waiting for Mr. right, then going to get married with him and live with him and have babies and stay with him for the rest of your life?

How do you know that Mr. right is even compatible to you if you do not have sex with him first before committing to a life long boring relationship?

I say finding Mr. right or Mrs. right for that matter is much like buying a new car, first take it for a test drive before committing to it!

Sex is lovely, enjoy it before you decide to get into a magnanimous relationship!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  If you choose Mr.Right or Mrs.Right I dont know what gender you are based on how good in bed they are alone you are awful shallow. I know its an amazing concept but some people do care about others for something more than JUST SEX. If your partner becomes crippled you are going to hang them dry and that is kind of sad. Since I would wait with mine till the day one of us died and most likely never move on from it. You dont know what true love means, so you would not understand.
  
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  - sexysonofsam
    
    8 years ago
    
    You are sadly mistaken and did not understand what i was trying to tell you. I did not say become a whore and sleep with a thousand men, I merely suggested that you try something before making a life changing commitment such as marrying a person.
    
    In other words, there is no need to sleep with all the men you meet in your life only the ones that you might be interested in as a life partner. i also did not say that you should bed them on the first date, get to know them and have sex with them before deciding that you want to commit.Remember "until the day I die" could be a very long time if you have chosen the wrong partner!
    
    I have been married twice, my first marriage was a total disaster (except for the three lovely children)as my first wife was a total trollop who slept with most of my so called "friends" behind my back until I got divorced from her!
    
    My second wife is a normal person with fits of madness from time to time (we have been married 30 years) but we still love each other and are very compatible...
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      Yes, I get it. You are shallow and only care about sex. Its very simple. You only would tolerate being with someone if they are good in bed, and even if you love them as a person if they dont have great sex you would simply drop them. Which means bottom line sex is the base for your relationship. However some people dont really base an entire relationship on SEX ALONE or as a foundation. That means if one of your lovers suddenly becomes crippled and no longer can have sex you are going to say "Well fuck you bye! All I needed was sex, so you know ill see you later". It just shows you are shallow and honestly some people are not that shallow. I dont see people as sex objects I simply see them as people unlike you. Also this post was about sex on the first date and you said we should always have sex on the first date or the person is not compatible. If a random stranger asks you on a date and than wants to have sex how does that one date make you know if you want to be with them forever? That would be sleeping with every single person you meet. So going back and trying to make yourself better now wont help anything!
      
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      - sexysonofsam
        
        8 years ago
        
        I apologize for offending you, please forgive me for being so crude?
        
        Is there any chance that you may find a small space in your heart to let bygones be bygones?
        
        I feel like taking my own life after having read your wise earthly remarks...
        
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MeatHookSodomy

8 years ago

I've never gone on a date with a chick and not had sex with her the first day. Like there was this Chick 22years old and it was maybe 8 hours since we first met under a peer. We finish with our date and go to her place around 4am I was dirty needed a shower, undressed in the bathroom and invited her to shower with me, she couldn't believe it, she never showered with a man before. I've always showered with every single girlfriend I've ever had before.

So I say to you no sex on the first date is 100% not normal

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