Is it normal to have my mother spend a life insurance windfall on herself?
Two Characters here - One is MOM, one is MOTHER, Lesbian Parents. So it is tough to track who is who... anyway:
My Mom's lover and her broke up... details are shaky and private, one quit drinking, and the other continued. AA told My second Mom to distance her self from drinking influence. My Mother Drinks. They broke up, and when my Mom(the partner) left she ended up commited with depression(among other personal issues) She took her own life. A year later my Mother has the life insurance Money. Which is entirely hers.
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My story
During the Break up of my parents - unfortunately my apartment filled with Carbon Monoxide and I died, and was recovered by a Neighbour and Paramedics. The landlord illegally evicted me - big court blow out(to no avail), and it was terrible timing - in a big city during a school semester. I moved, dealt with court, passed 5/6 classes, and then My Mom commited Suicide. I dealt with my Moms funeral, my Mother and I dealt with her loss; while my girlfriend and I tried our damned best to get back on financial solid ground. Which I now recently recovered from(I am now 'check to check' again! .. hurray? the woes of our society are another topic entirely) I am welcome back to My university in January.
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Money was just awarded to my Mother this month(a large 6 digit number), She paid a years rent, and has been drinking and traveling, and she spent Canadian Thanksgiving out of town with friends while I was left to dog sit. I was given 2% of the award, which I have only half of - it didn't even cover rent... nevermind classes. So now when I explained that I thought 50% for Mother and 25% for Sister and 25% for me would be more fair distribution - of which we can all put some into savings. When she came back from her weekend, (to get out of the city - fair enough) I explained that I was upset having been left alone. She took my keys, demanded the $30's back for dog sitting, and now tells me to give her the keys.
I think I am pretty Upset. I am looking for work, broke and getting ready for school - Nevermind me! My poor Girlfriend of 3 years!! It is killing our relationship. Mom recently explained that it is her money and that I should be so lucky to have a 1000 dollar gift of it!
Is it normal to share so little among Family?! I am having a real hard time wrapping my head around this - and this whole year!