Is it normal to have feelings for young girl

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I am a 32 year old man with a physical disability and have been unemployed for almost a year now so I started to volunteer at my local public library. I met a wonderful 14 year old girl who just started high school and she works at the library on Saturdays for a few hours. I only get to see her once a week and we don't talk very much. I don't really have any friends and I am a virgin if that matters. I don't know how she feels about me. I don't have much money because I have not been able to find a good job for years and all my savings have gone to paying off my college debt, but I would still like to maybe go shopping with her and buy her whatever she wants, clothes, shoes, jackets, underwear, and maybe even buy her some food. I want her to see me as an independent adult not as a loser.

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  • SirChazwickEsquire
    7 years ago

    Just take a seat right over there....

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    What....? "unemployed for almost a year now," then you go, "I have not been able to find a good job for years."

    Anyway, by law, she's too young; leave her alone and focus on getting your life together.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      The last job I had was good paying I was happy and wanted to stay there but they didn't think I was worth keeping around anymore. I have had other work before that but nothing was what I really wanted to do.

      I know she's young which is why I wanted to be a friend and let her know that I could always be there for her. I want her to trust me and all that. She's young and that is exactly why she won't judge me like you or any adult woman will.

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      • Tealights
        7 years ago

        You basically admitted you want to take advantage of her ignorance, and groom her if possible by buying her things in hopes she'll like/trust you.

        A little girl will not solve your problems. Everyone judges people every single day, but you can't fear that. Just do what you can to get your life on track, and then focus on meeting a nice woman, because they do exist, and not a child.

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  • sourgrapes
    7 years ago

    No its not bloody well normal.ffs.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    There's no future in this unless you're prepared to wait until she's of legal age. Buying her things, especially underwear, looks suspiciously like grooming to me.

    You need to make friends of your own age and shift your focus away from this young girl. OK to be friendly, but anything more is seriously creepy.

    If you wish to lose your virginity a sex worker would be a good option: there are some who specialise in relating to people with physical and/or mental disabilities.

    You seem lonely to me: what's the reason you have no friends? Physical disability isn't a bar to friendship unless you let it be.

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