Is it normal to have deep feelings for your ex boyfriend, but have a new bf?

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I dated a guy for around a year, but i had feelings (very deep feelings) for another boy. (me and my ex didnt break up over me having feelings for the other boy) it was over hard times for us. Now me and that boy are together and now i really miss my ex. But he has a girlfriend, and i have a boyfriend. Should i tell him though? Is it normal to switch people like that?

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    That sounds kind of unfair to your current partner. Is it possible you want what you can't have? Like for example, your last boyfriend loved to makeout, and hold hands. Now your current boyfriend isn't into making out, and doesn't hold your hand as often as he should, so now you miss mr.ex It's possible that if you left your current ex for someone else you'd then miss him. In which case you should slow down and think of all the good qualities your partner has, there must have been a reason your started dating him in the first place :)

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    • roanwolf
      12 years ago

      It's not the wanting what you can't have thing.. I don't even know what it is. He hurt me so much, and yet I still feel for him... The feelings are fading though, and I'm working things out with my current partner, whom I want to be with muchly

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  • roanwolf
    12 years ago

    I'm pretty much in the same boat... I dated a guy only for a few months, but still had/have very strong feelings for him.. I'm with someone new now and so is he, but I still want to talk to him :\
    I wouldn't say it's switching, but it is normal... Just try to concentrate on your new partner and making things work between the two of you... I know it's hard, but eventually, time heals all wounds

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    • Energy
      12 years ago

      Yes! Sorry couldn't help it :P
      This is exactly what I wanted to say XD

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  • sunshinemoonlight
    7 years ago

    you cant just switch people like pokemon cards

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  • crimsonSunset
    12 years ago

    I don't know it is normal or not. My condition no different than yours, only difference is: I do not have any GF now.

    I couldn't forget her, she always haunt me. What I will say to you: But you are a good girl (only good ppl can love unconditionally) so you should be fair with your BF and concentrate only on him.

    I will do the same if someone else come to my life again.

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