Is it normal to have certain "rewards" depending on your status?

4 Comments

I came across an interesting post where they were talking about how you shouldn't reward your potential partner based on your status with them. So for example, having sex with them until you're in an official relationship. Some said yes it should be that way and that's what I always thought. I mean it makes sense. Whether ur a guy (which I doubt a guy will say no to sex which is what makes it problematic) or a girl, some things you shouldn't do because they don't deserve it if they haven't put a label on your status officially. Or else, that person is getting away with getting everything when they don't make that effort to put a title on it.
However, on the other hand, i forgot where I saw this which is making me mad, but it said how sex and things you want to do genuinely solely based on your heart, you should just do it. Basically how people should stop comparing sex with self-respect because sex should be a separated thing where people do it because they genuinely feel good doing it with that person no matter who they are. And they can do it and still respect themselves. Same goes with other things such as celebrating their birthday by giving them a gift, visiting them, hanging out with them and their family, paying for them, only if its genuinely wanting to like it just makes you feel good to see them happy.
So not sure if you should restrict yourself based on your status or do what you want to do no matter what but be prepared to face the consequences. What do you think?

Set boundaries 4
Do what you feel like doing 3
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 4 )
  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    I never understood the concept of not putting a label on a relationship. You put a label on a relationship for the same reason there are labels on food products, so you know exactly what you're buying, and you know exactly what to expect. If a man I was with avoided that, to me it would communicate that he doesn't want me to have any expectations of him, and that is not the type of man that I would want to be involved with at all.

    Having said that, I don't believe in using sex or anything else as currency in a relationship. You see a lot of posts here about that...people trying to manipulate their partner into meeting some need, when all they really have to do is ask. Sure, communicating your needs does sometimes involve having the balls to admit that you're insecure or that you need reassurance, but just being honest is so much healthier than being a passive aggressive cunt.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    3
    3
  • (s)aint
    9 years ago

    Nah, Only thing that I would have is that I for my own sake tries to limit how much energy I put into the relationship. If we are only seeing one another I have to put limits on myself to avoid getting hurt. But I'll still fuck him, hug him and talk to him and all that.

    I´m the sort of person who would do so much for a person if I like them, which ends up with me feeling used and disrespected if I don't get the same in return.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    I'm a guy. Soooo yeah, I don't really care if the girl I'm screwing has ulterior motives as long as I do t need penicillin to deal with them. And the girls I run into that try to force a commitment or specific behavior out of me by turning the tap off, I usually don't waste my time with.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • vaginahouse
    9 years ago

    i will reward your dick with my asshole

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    -1
    -1