Is it normal to have boyfriend problems like this?

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I have a boyfriend for more than 1 year,it seems to be a pretty good relationship, I met his family and he met mine, sometimes he comes to my house for dinner, chats with my mom.He is shy and somehow immature(you know boys are not as mature as girls at same age), I'm 1 month older than him. Anyway, everybody says we are stable. But there are problems, make me cried again and again, because I don't see he loves me so much as he claims? Or because he's just not mature enough? Or even maybe I'm just insane? Sometimes I can't control my temper, my feeling, because I just don't see he loves me that much as he claims. Also because of some family problems and health condition I'm during a hard time,that also makes me fretful and irritated. Last night he went to some one's wedding, coincidently the bride is my friend(not very close one),but I have to work so didn't went there.He told me that bride said she didn't think he likes me. When I heard this, again I couldn't hold myself, I just turned into louder say"That's it!Not only me but everybody don't see you like me!"I was driving and so thriling that I couldn't help to pound the steering wheel. At first he smiled and joked then when he noticed that I was really being angry he just turned into silence, then non of us said a word. When we got to his apartment,he couldn't wait to untide the seatbelt and open the car door and get off the car just like he don't want to stay for more than one seceond. Then he just left, walked upstair without turning back on me. I can't even type anymore, that's so hurt.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    You should see a mental health professional to rule out any kind of mood disorders.

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    • ProseAthlete
      10 years ago

      I agree with this 100 percent. Your behavior is not normal or stable, and it has no place in a loving relationship. You don't sound as though you have boyfriend problems; you sound as though you have emotional problems.

      Honestly, some of the behavior you're describing seems a short step away from emotional abuse or even physical abuse. If you're pounding on the steering wheel, you're not far from pounding on him.

      Anyone is going to flee from someone who seems unstable and dangerous. Sorry, but I believe your boyfriend's smart to distance himself from you if you are that out of control.

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    • Stairy
      10 years ago

      I might have a bad temper but he left me alone? He shouldn't have do that. If he really cares about me he wouldn't have left me alone

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        I'm by no means a professional nor am I am person of any academic authority but Borderline Personality Disorder immediately comes to mind. I'm not trying to insult or attack you in any way but it sounds like you have a deep fear of abandonment which is a hallmark of the disorder.

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        • peterrabbyt2
          10 years ago

          I love you!

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  • suckonthis9
    10 years ago

    Your problem is that you see your friend as a 'boy'.
    He is not.
    A 'boy', is a pre-pubescent male.
    He is no longer a child, he probably is an adolescent male. Biologically, he is an adult, but he is not yet mentally mature.

    Same goes for 'girls'. Please discontinue referring to yourself as one. A 'girl', is a pre-pubescent person of either sex, and is sometimes offensive in usage.

    Both the mature adults, and youths, need to stop listening to a few religious fuddy-duddies, who still think 21 year old people are 'children'.

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    10 years ago

    Seems to me that you are very codependent, he cannot be with you every second of every day. You have to know he has his own life too.

    Also, I am by no means a grammar nazi, but a little proof reading would really help you to get the message across, and most likely increase the amount of replys you get.

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    • Stairy
      10 years ago

      Of course he has his own life, I'm not asking him be with me every sencond of days, actually I work 10 hours per day for more pays, so that I can get a better life for myself, for my dogs too. I'm struggling for life, that's why I'm expecting more careness from a boyfriend. I want him to show more to me, make me aware that I'm a lucky one, not just a lonely girl who struggling on making money.

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      • Captain_Kegstand
        10 years ago

        Well then I apologize, I got the wrong message from your post. :)

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    What are you saying i lost my way in to this writing of what you feeling is?

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