Is it normal to have an imaginary girlfriend?

Okay, so like many of you on here, I am a virgin who masturbates frequently. I wouldn't describe it as an addiction or anything like that, just something I do about once or twice a day because I enjoy doing and sometimes, there's not much else to do.

Anyway, as my first sentence implies, I am afraid of talking to women. I believe that any girl I talk to will probably reject me for various reasons that I don't feel like getting into as of this time. I realize that having a fear of rejection is perfectly normal and that isn't why I'm on here.

The reason I'm on here is this. Over the years, as I've gained experience masturbating, I've developed this imaginary girl who I have recurrent thoughts about while masturbating. In the beginning, it was pretty simple - I just imagined the body of an attractive woman. But now, it's gotten more complicated - I imagine her talking to me, kissing me, and being with me in general, such as on Christmas, I imagined opening presents that she bought for me and then giving her some presents as well.

Whenever I'm feeling bad about something (which is often, given my high levels of stress, neurosis, and paranoia), I imagine her talking to me - she has a really nice, comforting voice and she always tells me that everything's going to be okay and then she kisses me. As of now, I have not named my imaginary girlfriend, although thinking of the perfect name has taken up a lot of my time lately.

Just for the record, I do not believe this girl really exists - that would make me psychotic. I just think about her a lot, that's all. What worries me is that I'm starting to think of this as a real relationship, as a substitute for a real girlfriend. Am I crazy for thinking this? Am I still a virgin, despite the fact that I have sex with my imaginary girlfriend regularly? Is any of this even remotely normal? Answers to these questions will be greatly appreciated.

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52% Normal
Based on 48 votes (25 yes)
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  • Nokiot9

    It is normal unless you named her and talk to her when u aren't jerking off lol.

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    • sandraasiilva

      ^ yep!

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  • suicideguy

    i have an imaginary noose around my neck

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  • Pseodonihm

    A fantasy relationship is not only normal but healthy. In this fantasy you are defining the type of woman you are looking for. As long as you still realize the difference between fantasy and reality you should have no worries.

    I also have a particular problem with relating to women. One that I will not go into detail here. And fantasy is probably the only thing that keeps me sane.

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  • shuggy-chan

    I don't know. Im going to ask my imaginary friend...

    With benefits

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  • DaDoc

    I don't think it's normal. It's one thing to fantasize about a imaginary woman. It's another to give her a personality, and imagine her talking to you. The Christmas present thing is weird also. That's not a good relationship to have, it's kind of like Norman Bates from psycho. I don't think it'll be healthy mentally in the long run, because you'll stay in this imaginary relationship and may never have a real one. My advice: Go out and approach women and get rejected. Everyone has a fear of rejection, it's up to you to face your fears. What's the worse thing that can happen? Oh, that's right they'll say no. You move on a try again. Approach at least 5 women a day and be ready to get rejected, I guarantee it'll get easier. Rejection isn't anything to be afraid of, it'll make you a stronger person. Do it now before it's too late, and this imaginary woman be the only woman you ever have.

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  • Unimportant

    I don't think it's unnormal. There's certainly no harm in it, and if you need the company of a person to be reasonably happy - go for it. No harm no foul is what I'd say.

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  • vergil7

    i has a imaginary gf..

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  • DubstepismyMJ

    Try not watching porn for just a week. If you can do that, i'll believe you that your not addicted.

    First step is admitting it.

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  • RainbowFlash

    There is an entire community based around such entities... http://www.reddit.com/r/tulpas

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  • sandraasiilva

    yeah, I think it's normal at a certain point.
    "Am I still a virgin, despite the fact that I have sex with my imaginary girlfriend regularly? " You're still virgin, of course! This just happened in your thoughts / fantasies. It was not real.
    I'm not sure how much you're doing it... I mean, it's ok if you do that sometimes and principally when you are masturbating yourself. But it's not normal if you LIVE CONCENTRATED in an imaginary world. If you think you do not fit in what I just said, then don't worry, you're doing fine.
    Remember always the reality.

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