Is it normal to have almost no friends?

Is it normal that I have barely any friends? Hardly anyone at my school liked me very much, and the ones that did like me were only nice to me because they knew I was really shy and were just sorry for me. Eventually in school I did make a couple of good friends, but when I went to university we grew apart, so I stopped seeing them. I kept in contact with one of them, but only on Facebook, and even now we rarely speak, so it's hard to call it a friendship anymore, we're like acquaintances again.

My reason for having almost no friends is because as I said, I'm shy and insecure, mainly because I'm still a kid inside and enjoy many animated movies and video games for kids, hell I even watch some of my childhood shows, and I've never met another soul who does the same. I wouldn't dare tell anyone my age that I still play Pokemon for example, because I wouldn't want to be judged and ridiculed for it. If I told someone that, it would give off the impression that I still act like a kid or that I'm mentally ill or something.

Trust me, I've never met a single person my age in real life (apart from my own brother, but he doesn't count) who likes Pixar movies or Ratchet and Clank. Pretty much every one of my peers in school and university enjoyed the usual stereotypical teen and young adult things - violent video games, drinking, clubbing, dating/sex, horror movies, black comedy movies, putting selfies on Facebook etc. None of this interests me, so I could never once become friends with 99.9% of the people I met at school/university.

Online though, there are millions upon millions of people my age that have nerdy interests and loads of friends at the same time. I just can't find any of them in real life. It's a massive shame. Is this normal and can anyone else relate? I'm almost friendless, it really sucks. Maybe I'm just unlucky that I haven't found anyone like me. I'm totally unlike anyone else I know. I'm actually terrified that I might be a virgin for a very long time.

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Comments ( 7 )
  • randypete

    friends are not always good you need to pick them wise the let you down

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  • To make friends you have to initiate a conversation and regularly keep in touch with them or they may go away. Dont bother them too much though or you will seem annoying and needy. Every few days to once a week is good. Invite them to do activities you can both enjoy. You would be suprised how many adults secretly like pokemon and cartoons.

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  • mrs.apple

    I only have one friend I actually like. And I have a few online friend, so basically like 4 or 5. I don't even want friends in real except the one I do have

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  • Thewomanizer

    Its fine to enjoy childish games and acting like a kid. I mean acting all mature and grown up is boring. I do feel that you need to have a balance though of the two otherwise if you are too much one way its makes it more difficult to connect with others. On the topic of making friends it can be hard …sometimes you need to push beyond your safety limits and just summon up a little confidence to engage in conversations with people even if you dont completly relate to what they're saying. Also being a virgin is not something to feel odd or ashamed about. Most people act like sheeps and just copy peers to fit in. Being differnt makes you unique

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  • flyingnostalgia

    it is pretty normal from where i come from

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  • miskris

    You'll grow into yourself, and then you wont have to worry about actively finding friends they will just be attracted to you because of similar interests :) good luck!

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  • righteous

    grow up.

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