Is it normal to have aggressive thoughts

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Well I am around 20 years old. As a child i had a rough upbringing. My Mother has never been an agreeable women. I mean literally verbally harrassing people for little to no reason. She finally is in a good relationship and is on the brink of marrying her fiancee. Her fiancee has 2 childeren, your average boys. My mom makes her fiancee feel awful. And she yells at the kids. When she does this i think about attacking my mom. I always feel like she is a villain and someone needs to stop her. I have always had thoughts like this about her. I wanted to crash her car with us in it, beat her. I just can't handle yelling.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Normal to want to choke out ya mum from time to time.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    I think anyone from a dysfunctional family can relate. You're young and angry at something beyond your control and thats fine. Just don't let it consume you. You gotta find a release for your anger and focus on your own future. Your mom is no longer your problem. No-one will blame you for being selfish and distancing from her.

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  • brutus
    5 years ago

    A large percentage of women are mental.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    I've felt like killing for the past few days maybe, though not actually, since that would be terrible.

    So, I've been slicing NPC's throats in a video game. It felt surprisingly amazing the first time I got back to playing.

    I only get like this when my life is mundane, irritating, and I feel trapped, aka, when I'm angry.

    I think it's normal to get aggressive thoughts when people are pushing your buttons, but the best thing to do is to get away from, or resolve the situation, if possible.

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  • Daniboi
    5 years ago

    Considering how you described your mother, it is normal, you should maybe speak to her fiancé about her? Or at least something? From this little info, you gave us, it would be very unfortunate if your mother's fiancé ended with somebody they didnt want to!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I have spoke with her and she agrees that my mom is harsh with the kids. So she just tells the kids not to do certain stuff around my mother.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    You need to get away from your mother.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Oh? It's hard to get away from her. I constantly babysit kids. I live in a hotel room. I have no free time. I live no where near anything to even get my own finances. I have given up my life for my mothers since I was 16 and now I am 20. But i can't leave these people alone with my mother. They will leave her. And my mom will kill herself. Which would be my fault.

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        None of this is your fault. If you ever decide to leave, and your mother harms herself in any way it will not be your fault whatsoever. She is an adult with free will, you are not responsible for her!

        There is probably a lot of codependency, and enmeshment going on in your family with your mother, but it's not your fault.

        Checkout this website:

        http://coda.org/

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          I don't just want tp write of CODA but I don't think that's really it. But it could be. I put myself in my own bad situation to help others. I could have gone on my own. But this is the last time. I can't emotionally handle it. I can barely physically handle it. But there isn't much I can do. I refuse to go to a homeless shelter. And I can't afford to live on my own. I don't qualify for government assistance even being homeless. I have a lot of underlying mental issues noone has ever bothered to notice or care about. I just learned that I need to be by myself. Solitude is my only comfort.

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          • RoseIsabella
            5 years ago

            Well, I think the main thing is that you need to get away from the old woman.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              5 years ago

              Probably
              Hard to with no way out
              It's easy to get trapped
              Especially in a hotel room with 4 others
              And I have been hiding from the owners
              I feel like a prisoner because I have nowhere else

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    • [Old Memory]
      5 years ago

      RoseIsabella is always right 101

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        ☺ You're too kind.

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