Is it normal to have a relationship of 3 years and already passion has died?

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Been with my boyfriend for 3 years this coming August and I still feel the same passion for him as I did when we first started dating. But on his end I feel little to no passion left. I have tried everything to spark it back up. I give him long 30 min deep throat oral anytime he wants (Sorry for tmi), I wear makeup do my hair, pretty much always try and look pretty for him. Yesterday I spent 3 hours getting ready, making myself gorgeous and he got to come home to me doing housework in sexy lingerie and all I got was, oh you like nice...then he just turned around and went to play video games. No hug no kiss nothing. I didn't expect sex right then and there but I guess I expected something more. He gives me no attention! I have to ask for kisses and sex and he acts like it's a big gift he is giving me when I get them. I know he is not cheating on me, I think he just does not feel passion for me any longer. So I guess I do know the answer to this question I am just so pissed right now I needed to vent and see what other people thought. I know this relationship has died and there really is no point to continue it as I think it will just get worse and more stale. I am still young and very sexual I should not waste it on him anymore.

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    Stop all your doing for two weeks, then start the flirting again, but with no rewards, just talking and getting to know each others feelings and what is fun to them. After let the flood gates open , if he still lacks desire for you, there is something wrong with him most likely! He should be checked out by a doctor!

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  • blondbond69
    11 years ago

    I'm going thru that right now too. Our bfs are taking us for granted. What you described sounds like symptoms of him finding that new found passion elsewhere. :( I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news I know it hurts..but when we look good and try our best and they don't notice and have to be forced to put out and give affection ..it means someone else is getting his attention. That's why we aren't. Move on. :( I have to aswell

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  • DanB
    11 years ago

    I really don't think ^ she is right. It just happen to her. Doesn't mean it's what's happening to you.

    People get like that, 3 years is pretty lengthy. I doubt he's had anything last that Long before so he's just gotten comfortable. I'd talk to him about it. Ask him to put in more effort, if not honestly fuck it. Make him a bit jealous. Show him you want his attention. Don't go blowing other dudes, just mention a guys name casually in conversation a few times. If you don't have with guys often that alone will trigger something.

    Also, don't let him get away with shit like that, if he has an issue with fucking your brains, don't blow up for ages lol tease the fuck outta him make him want it

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  • dinz
    11 years ago

    I'm a male and I experienced the same thing

    (except the makeup and lingerie part)

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