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Well, i met my friend Last september and i liked her a bit. Then i met my girlfriend. Everything was fine : a cute girlfriend and a "best friend" (even if this amity was based on my feelings for her). But 8 months after, the problem is, i'm not sure but, i think that i'm starting loving her again. I'm lost in toughts.
That sucks :[. But I have been in your situation and I think you have to try to figure out your feelings. If you love your best friend more romantically I don't think it's fair to be with this other girl. It's not fair to the girl or to yourself because then you kind of have to live a lie and that hurts.
Also, I've been in the situation where I was with someone and they had a friend they started to love and they lied about it. They lied until the day I sensed something was wrong and had a long talk about how things didn't seem right with them and we broke up. They never told me the truth either, that the real reason was this other girl. Instead I found out by his facebook which said the anniversary of his new gf and him was the day we broke up. Let me tell you that hurt like hell. It's been a year and part of me still isn't over it (we were together 4 years and bffs for 7).
Having a girlfriend and kind of always keeping a back up that you want more if she ever becomes available is living a lie and it is not good for your heart. Also it can become a pattern of behavior and it's kind of a cowardly one.
I'm not trying to be mean, I understand that your situation is delicate and terribly hard. I hope everything works out alright for you!
Well i spoke about this With my best friend, i told her that my feelings were ambiguous. I was scared of her reaction but she wasnt shocked, cause she knew it. Now cause of holidays i Will not see both my gf and my bf for a month. So i'll tale Time to think about it and see them back With clear toughts.
Thanks a lot for your comment, helped me a lot :)