Is it normal to have a gf tell you she felt nothing for you

My girlfriend and I just ended our 11 month off and on relationship about a week ago. She told me afterwards that for the last stint of our relationship (about 3 months) that she felt nothing for me and she no longer found me attractive. She said "it was all an act", when I asked her why she would lead me on like that and waste both of our time she said "Its who I am". Her mom always cheated on her dad and I thought that might have something to do with it but she knows that what her mom did was wrong. It just blows my kind that she would keep our relationship going for three more months when she claims that she didn't feel anything.

Is that a normal behavior???

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29% Normal
Based on 62 votes (18 yes)
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  • kelili

    She said that so you stop annoying her

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  • jessica2727

    Of course it isn't. She was probably with you for the wrong reasons....maybe you showered her with gifts/money. Maybe she just used that as an excuse because the whole time she was really seeing someone else....at least she's being half honest with you in telling you that she felt nothing towards you. Move on.

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  • forgotmyusername

    yep, mononator is probably right. or she could have been telling the truth, which is also normal in a way - because she was with you for so long, maybe she was just "waiting it out" to see if she would reacquire those feelings she used to have for you. maybe she was too afraid to break up with you because she didn't want to make a major change in her life. sometimes it's easier to lie, but good god she shouldn't have done that, because it just ends up hurting everyone involved in the end.
    plus she's a total bitch for telling you. you're well shot of her.

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  • DavidD

    Yeah, they do that sometimes. You should have probably said something like, "Well your sister was better than you anyway."
    Then when she says, "I don't have a sister."
    You should respond with, "Well, check back in about 5 months."

    And BAM, a direct hit to her situation!

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  • She could be lying about it. She could be saying that to make you angry and sad. Maybe she tried to make it work but just did not end up happening. Did something bad happen that you didn't mention for her to say that? I think saying it's because her mom always cheated on her dad is an excuse. People should know better. Anyways, she's immature and you should be happy to not be with her anymore, that's how you should see it. Even if you loved her, you'll say when you'll be over it that you couldn't stay with someone like that. I'm probably forgetting something important but I can't think of it. Anyways I hope you'll feel better.

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  • kinda

    she don't want to be alone she doesn't love you but kind of attach with you somehow and she will feel hard to broke-up with you i think that's it ... i don't know but i had a boyfriend and i felt like i don't love him and i don't have a feeling for him but i was kind of related wd him without any convincing reason !! i think when you date her she was in depression maybe she didn't love u from the binging she just needed someone in her life and u were that person (Bad timing)...i don't know that is my story i passed in such experience and i did act and i don't know y and i told hem i don't have a feeling for him he told me " do you want to broke-up with me" i said "No i don't but when you feel like you want tell me!!..!!..!!" .. but i was the one who broke-up with him...that's my story and i don't feel good when i remember it at all.. i don't like this experience at all it was weird and i was in depression and i didn't think i behaved well!! for me i wished that he says he didn't want to be with me if i don't love him because i felt sad (because "I" broke-up with hem & i think i broke his heart and i didn't want to :((( he was deep in love with me while am just acting
    this story makes me feel guilty i didn't want to remember it..wish i didn't read your story in this page :((((((

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  • My GF has told me that before. During one of our huge blowouts she siad she had bun fucking some other guy name "Bill" I think. You can never tell, women lack civility after relationships end and try to ruin everyone around them.

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  • ToxicCrayons

    Don't listen to these idiot men telling you she was lying to make herself feel better.

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  • spidercrowblaze18762

    No dude, it isnt normal, what a bitch she is!

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  • Mozart

    I can tell you she was definitely lying. I know many girls who will say that to an ex (I'm also guilty of it) just to hurt their feelings and make themselves feel better. Is it right? No. But she definitely was hurt, and she probably is trying to convince herself that she didn't care.

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  • hokisgurl

    Well I've been in a relationship where I didn't feel attracted to the guy so it can happen I was in the beginning then somehow. Overbite I wake up and am like why am I dating. This person I don't like him maybe it is one of those things I'm like that in relationships. I fall asleep and wake up and. The love is gone I don't feel a thing for them anymore

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  • @:Momonator

    Thanks I really appreciate that :)

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  • chicken471bologna

    Women always say dumb shit like that after a break up. She is lying to you dude.

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