Is it normal to have a gay relationahip with a friend?

I went to the beach with my friend and his family earlier this summer. While we were there my friend said he loved me. I figured he had meant it in a brotherly way although I guess I knew he didn't. I panicked and replied with an "I love you too bro". Later that night he started touching me, my sexually but like footies and things. I wish I can say I thought nothing of it but I definitely new something was up and I was aggravated. Eventually I had to confirm it for myself so I asked "when you said 'I love you' were you joking or serious?". He was completely serious and told me a whole story about himself and his friends and the trouble this would cause. I offered to always be there and he really pressed for a relationship. Now I had tried some stuff before with guys but there was nothing. I didn't think there would be but I had to be 100% sure. After all, that affected the rest of my life. As reluctant as I was to decline I eventually said yes and we had a thing. For a little while at least. It was romantic, extremely and passionately physical, and neither of us are ashamed. But we both are only attracted to one another, not guys, not both. We like girls, we've both been with girls, but we couldn't keep our hands off each other. It all ended when a bunch of drama happened and my girlfriend found out. He was so concerned his family might find out, we arranged for me to take the fall. I gladly did. My now ex girlfriend, and his family think I'm a liar. I have a new girlfriend now. Regardless of its ending, is this normal?

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Based on 43 votes (35 yes)
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Comments ( 11 )
  • RoseIsabella

    Paragraphs are lovely.

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  • RoyRogers

    No, you are a asshole. You get new GF you dont love so you can cheat on them? What a dick

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    • The reason my ex and I broke up is unrelated to fact that I cheated. I know I cheated and it is a mistake I'll have to deal with. Now, I'm no longer with my friend. We don't see each other. We don't speak to one another. The last time I saw him he said how much it all meant and that despite his family he wanted to keep it going. I said no because I won't cheat again.

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      • RoyRogers

        that really does not matter. You keep getting new GF so you can cheat on them with your gay lover. So this is very simple. You are a DICK!

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        • Okay you seem to be missing the point. He and I no longer speak. My new girlfriend will never come in contact with that sort of pain. I don't ever plan on doing it again considering he is the only male I am attracted to and if we don't even speak ... Can you handle the math? So this is very simple, give an actual comment be it positive or negative or just don't bother.

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  • Somedutchguy

    The question is: Do you love him more then your (now ex) girlfriend?

    If you love each other then you should just go for it.
    Don't let others decide for you, for only you know what you truly want and who you want to be with.

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  • Melora

    There is nothing wrong with being bisexual. There is also nothing wrong when consenting adults are intimate.

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    • Well consenting, yes. I was seventeen he was sixteen. The age of consent is sixteen in my state. However neither adults.

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  • ReginaFalange

    IMAO, It sounds like you and your friend really love each other and that you are both wasting an oportunity for real happiness only because your are too coward to admit you are gay.

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    • Right but at the same time I loved other people too. Just never a guy. He was the only male I was attracted to and vice versa. So neither of us want to admit we're gay because to us that doesn't even fit the description of bisexual. It is one person, not exclusive or even multiple.

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      • ReginaFalange

        It's really complicated, I wish I could give better advice, but I'm at a loss.

        Good luck :)

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