Is it normal to have a friend with benefits?

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Brief description; I'm an 18 y/o boy with a caring and supporting family. I'm not that good at meeting new people, but once I know them I feel much more comfortable.

With that said, I'm a virgin and I want to experience what sex is like. And lately I'm considering to seek a friend with benefits in my local area through a website designed for such encounters. Do you think this is a good idea? Am I rushing things for myself? If you have any advice or experience, feel free to leave a comment.

Thank you in advance!

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  • snails
    5 years ago

    Don't think that being a virgin will make you seem bad or something- it's completely normal

    Waiting until you have a true partner is the best thing to do.

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  • andithoughtiwasweird
    5 years ago

    i decided to wait to have sex until i found a guy i loved and truly trusted. it took time. i was 22. but it was so worth it. i dont think its worth it to just try it and get it over with, with a rando. dont do it.

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  • Maid_in_Pink
    5 years ago

    Ok...there are two sides to this -

    1. Physically - there are risks associated with random encounters and referring to it as a "friend with benefits" is wrong, it's a booty call, hookup, one nighter or whatever else you want to call it but it is NOT "Friends with Benefits" the whole idea of the phrase is that it's someone who you are a friend with that you can trust and then you have a little side fun with between relationships. This thing that you are talking about comes with a slew of trust issues and most people using it would be considerably against the idea of friends with benefits they are looking for a hookup. There are risks of diseases and physical harm that come with meeting random people.

    2. Emotional/Psychological - This is a terrible Idea! You always ALWAYS remember your first time and if you ever needed an idea of how prevalent it is in your mind for the entire duration of your life - Steven Tyler, who did tons of drugs and has probably spent more time high than sober over his life remembers his first. If I remember correctly he was like 13 and she was a prostitute. There is no harm in waiting for the right person to come along, you don't have to marry them but they should at least be someone you have some kind of feelings about.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Wow, thank you for the in depth response, I highly appreciate it. I'll think about your advice for sure.

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  • Akiko-kokoro
    5 years ago

    If you feel the need to do so, who should stop you?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I feel like from a 'social image' standpoint, I shouldn't do it. By that I mean, what people would think of me when I have my first time with someone I don't know, just to know what sex feels like. I think it'd make me look like some closed pervert.

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      • Akiko-kokoro
        5 years ago

        That's how I lost my virginity and people shouldn't care what your sex life is like unless they are in bed with you. You'll be fine if you decide to or decide not to either way :)

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  • Meowypowers
    5 years ago

    Find first either a friend or benefits before you attempt to combine the two. Ask your parents though, they are relevant for some reason. Don't call yourself a boy, man.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I will talk to my parents about it if this gets to my head too much. I'm sure I can explain it one way or another. Thank you for the comment!

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      • lordofopinions
        5 years ago

        Talk to your parents about losing your viginity? *gasp*

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    I'm going to tell you what I tell all the virgins. Save yourself for someone you love who loves you!

    I lost my virginity to my first love who was also a virgin. I have zero regrets, and it was so worth waiting and saving myself for... believe me! Virginity is not something to just throw away.

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  • Fetiza000
    5 years ago

    It's weird seeing friends ending up engaging in sexual acts.

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  • McBean
    5 years ago

    You will be meeting girls 18 to 24. On your profile it might be good to say, "I think great kissing is highly enjoyable - break me in your way. " And, don't be dumb, wear a condom.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    5 years ago

    Thank you for all of your advice, everyone. This was a very informative experience for me!

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  • DoujinMySchool101
    5 years ago

    Be damn careful with your booty calls, if I were you I'd go hunt for a gf instead, or just, be a virgin for a while longer. Sex is highly overrated.

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