Is it normal to have a crush on a guy for almost 4 years?

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Everyone tells me to get over him. People can easily get over someone and develop feelings for others. This guy doesnt like me back but I still like him. I don't love him and I'm not obessed even though people say I am but they aren't me so I don't know why they can tell me what I feel. What do I do because I've had many crushes on other people but they were tiny crushes. I still can't stop liking this guy.

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  • Crow
    7 years ago

    Holy shit - four years. That's longer than most relationships.

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  • _Mehhhh_
    7 years ago

    I crushed on a guy for like a year once... and in my defense I was an angsty teenager.

    4 years though? fuck that, you need to get over him. I don't know what your situation is, but change schools/jobs/friendship circles to where you don't have to be around him. You'll forget him in no time.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    You claim to not be obsessed, but if you've been crushing on someone for four years and can't let go then you may very well be obsessed especially if he's not into you, boo boo. Also if you can't stop talking bout ole boy to your friends to the point that your friends are becoming über annoyed then they have a right to say you're obsessed, regardless they have a right to their opinions even if you don't necessarily agree with said opinions.

    Here's a test you can give yourself: if you're talking about this crush and a friend asks to change the subject can you drop it or do you get upset and all butt hurt, because he's all you can think about? Do thoughts of Mr. Ain't Never Gonna Be distract you to the point that you can't concentrate on anything else?

    Believe it or not you'll feel a lot better if you can forget about him.

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    • pinkcookie26
      7 years ago

      #1 I'm NOT obsessed.
      My friends aren't annoyed, because I don't talk about him.
      They DONT have the right to their opinions because if the OTHER so called "friends" make rumors and say I am in love with the guy and want his D. Thinking I like him sexually and shit it isn't right. Saying I pretend he is my pillow and fuck him when I'm asexual and don't do anything like that.
      I don't know where you got half that shit up but you must have not read what I wrote.
      I can focus on other things I only think of him when I'm at home and not busy with work. I bring up other things to my friend and they never tell me to drop the subject, they talk about their loves and crushes more have I ever in my life. I have been able to get over him for a period of months but it just comes back.
      I am not in love, or obsessed I just have a reoccuring crush thank you very much.

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      • Motorhippy
        7 years ago

        She explained a hypothetical situation and asked you simple questions.

        Pretty easy to see why nobody would be into that amazing personality you got going for you.

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        • Pizzaisthebest
          7 years ago

          Well at least she doesn't put up with peoples shit. She has a right to defend herself and doesn't need anyone to be commenting rude shit, about how nobody likes them. People can't control how they feel, and anyone who says otherwise is either lying or a robot.

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          • Motorhippy
            7 years ago

            Yes she definitely has that going for her. Just shit on people because you're emotional. Great. It must be working. It was just a fucking joke anyways.

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            • pinkcookie26
              7 years ago

              Obvious your a shallow realistic person. Some people are emotional, if you cant be nice and understanding then please go fly a kite :) and just deal that some people are soft

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        • pinkcookie26
          7 years ago

          I have an AMAZING personality. She wasn't asking simple questions she was infering to something that was totally not the case. I'm not up for your sarcasm and if you had to deal with bullying for 10 years of your life even as a young adult, judging, mocking, rumors, jokes, and etc then you'll be irritable too. Not saying that as an excuse but you don't know my personality and I rather not have someone else tell me what I feel as they are not in my head. I was blankly stating that, but I can easily tell that my language put off a misunderstanding.

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      • RoseIsabella
        7 years ago

        Whatever you say, kid. You're not defensive at all.

        The friends who make up lies about you and start rumors aren't your true friends. You might do well by yourself to phase the gossip girls out of your life.

        No offense but, "I have been able to get over him for a period of months, but it just comes back", sounds a lot like a rash as far as your recurring crush goes. I dunno what to tell you except perhaps to throw away or at least pack away anything that reminds you of your reoccurring crush. Also whenever you have thoughts of this person distract yourself with something else. Also you can challenge your recurring thoughts about this person by thinking or saying to yourself (if you're alone), I'm not interested in so and so or I'm over him.

        One final thing, maybe you can't shake this attraction because he's unavailable, and somewhere in your head you find unavailable people easy to crush on because you're afraid of getting close to anyone.

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        • pinkcookie26
          7 years ago

          Maybe true. I just know I will NEVER love, date, marry or have sex with anyone. He is single and has been for a long time. I have crushes on people who are single or unknown of being single. I don't have anything that remind me of him, I just know I see him everyday or every other day.

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  • Pizzaisthebest
    7 years ago

    I've like the same boy for 8 years. So if it's not normal to like someone for a long time, your not alone. All those people who are talking crap obviously don't know what it's like to have a real crush. It's not that we want to like that person, especially if they don't like us back, it just happens. And it definitely does not make us pathetic people who have no life or are being strung along or used. Also, some people are just shy. Not everyone can be fearless and social. Some people actually have mental disorders about social stuff, so if you think it's pathetic for someone to not be able to be able to go around and talk to people then you're actually the pathetic one. This site is meant to help people not make them feel shitty. Who cares if it's normal or not, normal is fucking boring and overrated.

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  • MOFOCOCKSUCKER
    7 years ago

    If he / she isnt ready to tie the knot after 4 years , then he / she is using the other person and just stringing the other one along.
    If it's a she who wont committ , she is a gold digger with no self esteem , no morals , insecure , afraid of living alone , lonely , desperate.
    Most females cant survive or function without a man feeding her money.
    If its a he who wont committ , he is using her for a piece of ass and for companionship.

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  • SirChazwick
    7 years ago

    You are a fucking pathetic pleb with an obvious lack of social skills. 4 years and you never try to make a move or anything? You have no guts and deserve to be alone if you are too scared to at least try and talk to this crush of yours.

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    • pinkcookie26
      7 years ago

      Excuse me I don't go out with people, marry or love people. I'm a shy, anti-social person. So excuse me if I'm different than you.

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  • DangerousSmile
    7 years ago

    I had a crush on a guy for 3 years. Not a major crush but still a crush. The 4th year he pissed me off and I totally got over him. A year and a half later and now we're dating hahaha. So honestly with time it could go either way. There is no way for you to control who you like so don't stress over it.

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  • motherfuckersbrother
    7 years ago

    Pull your cock out and wank it in his face if he doesn't suck your cock he's fucking queer

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