Is it normal to have a boyfriend 20 years older?

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My current boyfriend is 20 years older than me and looks younger than his age. He's the most loving, understanding, and sexy man I've ever met. We have more in common than I've ever had with guys my own age. And the sex is mind blowing. He actually cares about my needs and fantasies. I wouldn't trade him for the world. We do get a lot of looks from people in public but I find it rather amusing lol. Are older men just more appreciative in general? Also, Is it normal for men to fall for younger women or vice versa?

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  • Karmasbitch
    9 years ago

    I'm assuming your over 18 because your using the site, so if thats the case, its not not normal, but its not the most normal thing either. If its working for you and you are happy and he is happy and everything ist going good I see no issues.

    Keep it up! (Your bf will get it)

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    • rockcandy281
      9 years ago

      I'm 26 and he's 46. We've been seeing each other for a year and I have lived with him for a little over 4 months. It just keeps getting better and better :)

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  • JosephMcGuinness
    9 years ago

    Keep these things in mind:

    (Old saying) Alls fair in love and war

    Life is short, live it up the way you want

    Age does not matter in true love (if you are 18 and above)

    We all age one day, and die, though we could die much earlier

    Dont let others decide for you what to do in your love life

    If you truly love him, go for it, the way you two lovebirds want to! Goodluck!

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  • Nonjudgmental
    7 years ago

    My boyfriend is 19 years older and the attraction is his life experience. He isn't fussy about my body as he knows about the female body and what's normal. We can have a conversation about life and I can actually learn from his experience. He doesn't want to spend all day drinking or sitting in his car like most guys my age. And when we go out on a date we actually go and have experiences and go to the coast and castles and try new things. His attraction to me is that I like the things he likes but it's a more light hearted relationship. There's no marriage pressure or life pressure from me it's purely love and care. I totally understand your love and it's okay.

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  • LyeByMistake
    9 years ago

    Not normal but most people wouldn't care unless you look like your 12 or something

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  • LilithPristine
    9 years ago

    i think its normal for a lot of females to want an older man, 20 years is a fairly big gap though i have to say, and the thing with dating an older man that much older is thinking "why would he go for someone your age?", because it is most defiantly a looks thing. The fact is HE likes younger women, so what happens in 5 years time or more when you get older and he splits because he's looking for someone younger? (if this is going to be a long term thing of course)

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    • rockcandy281
      9 years ago

      He's dated older women and women his own age. He told me he's never felt this close and comfortable with anyone before, not even his ex wife. I know its a bit odd but we have amazing chemistry. And it definitely not a superficial relationship based on looks.

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