Is it normal to have a a hard time finding friends to hang out with?

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So I'm a guy and I'm 19, and I'm home summer from college, and to be honest I'm a little bored. Part of my problem is that most of my friends I have only known for two years, because I switched schools in 11th grade. For whatever reason it doesn't feel right to invite one over, just to hang out unless it's a girl. The only ones who just come over to chill are ones who I've known for a really long time, and even then I haven't really been to school with for like 5 years. Everyone who I knew from my the school I graduated in I just occasionally meet up to party with. Ive probably done somehing social outside of my family about 4 times this month. Does this seem unusually low? I really feel like I kind of got bad luck, because there was no one who I was really close to, who I got to go to school with for an extended period time, and naturally you drift. Also none of my college friends live in my state. I just see my sisters who have a friend over a day, and I get a little jealous.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago

    Why do you think we're on IIN?

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    You might have gotten the shaft by switching schools so late, but you can still make friends! You say you do have friends, but you have only known them for 2 years. This is a great place to build on relationships!

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  • Mmmpfh
    11 years ago

    4 times a month is bad to you? 4 times a month is my average I'd say. By choice, I usually only meet friends once a week

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  • foxyk
    11 years ago

    Besides, family time is good :) and yeah it does suck being bored though...

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  • foxyk
    11 years ago

    I think it's normal. I'm 19 and im kind of in the same boat (besides the fact I have a boyfriend and see him everyday) but I want to chill with my friends. And like you, I have 2 main ones I hang with but I've know them for almost 2 years and even then I dont see them a lot.... Everyone has a job now or hates my boyfriend which has been a problem so I just make time for them separately, anyways.. You are normal. This happens to a lot of people our age because all the party people are either still partying and doing drugs (that's what I would do with my party friends) or they are getting their lives together... I think it's hard for people like you and me to make NEW friends is because we are used to our main friends and our party friends! For me, I was like miss popular, now it's just like, wtf happened? Hard to make friends now because it's almost as if we don't know how..... Ive made friends in college but we never hung out besides in college.

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  • ginz
    11 years ago

    I can tell u it's normal.
    but I can't give u solutions cuz in the same as u r rite now.
    but it's normal cuz I know other ppl like that(including me)

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    • EndlessSuffering
      11 years ago

      Do us all a favour and learn how to spell, please.

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