Is it normal to hate your own mother more than anyone else?

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I know many people whose relationships with their mothers are less than ideal, but I don't know of anyone who hates their own mother more than I do - even my two sisters who share the same mother! My mother has deliberately sabotaged my efforts to make my life better, whether my effort was directed toward being a good student, wife, mother, employee - you name it, she's done her best to destroy it and to pour salt in the wound and smirk at me any time one of her emotional blows strikes home. She is the great destroyer of all things positive and good in life (or at least, she would be if I gave her half a chance)! She loves creating drama and sowing suspicion between family members. She is the most hateful and negative person I know, and I can only imagine that I will celebrate her death by spitting on her grave once she's finally gone. My sisters try to do their best when dealing with her, and I really have to give them credit for that, but I have mostly cut her out of my life because of the way she makes me feel whenever I spend any time around her. Is it normal for me to hate her and to reject her negative influence in my life?

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  • dytrog
    7 years ago

    Tell her your right! I don't call you to see how you are doing because I don't care. Don't call me at work or home! If you have caller ID pick up the phone and hang up
    w/o saying anything.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      That's certainly what I feel like doing most of the time, but I try to be at least somewhat respectful toward her, regardless of whether or not she deserves it. It's that part of me that keeps reminding myself that she's my mother, and I should treat my mother with respect. I guess that's why I never cut off contact with her completely. But every time she pulls another one of her stunts, I ask myself why I don't cut off contact completely? I don't know. She won't be alive that much longer, and I keep thinking I can take it for a little while longer. But it isn't easy.

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  • MANUP
    7 years ago

    I can see what you talking about,instead of loving you they try to destroy the good mood you set out for them.When you want to have a happy day positive day they strike you down because they had a bad day.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    7 years ago

    You misunderstood that part - I am a grown woman and have not lived with my mother for many years. She abused me both physically and emotionally while I was growing up, and she continued the emotional abuse after I left home. I cut off most contact with her years ago (maybe about 80%). However, she goes out of her way to do things to torment me even today (she even calls me at work for this purpose), and then likes to complain about how I don't call her or visit her, and I don't seem to care about how she's doing, and blah, blah, blah. She's right - I don't - and for good reason. I just wonder how unique I am in this?

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  • MANUP
    7 years ago

    She gets a pleasure in tormenting you, and you still stay with her?Call the cops,if someone feels pleasure in harming someone that's sanity to the finest.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    7 years ago

    Pretty much, except in my mother's case, she just gets some sort of secret and perverse pleasure in causing others emotional pain - especially her own children. It isn't necessarily related to whether she had a good or bad day - she just likes to inflict pain. You can tell, because there's a certain look of triumph on her face and in her eyes when she scores a hit on you - you can see that she's positively reveling in it. It's a form of sadism, I suppose. Then she loves to play the martyr when her children choose to ignore her rather than participate as the willing victims in their own torment - even though we have every reason and every right to do so. She truly has an ugly soul.

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