Is it normal to hate feeling horny?

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I'm an asexual, meaning I don't have interest in having sex with people. Personally, masturbation is fun sometimes. But lately I've found being horny to just be irritating. I enjoy it sometimes, but more often now masturbation is just a tedious task to get rid of the feeling of being horny. So, am i weird for hating feeling horny? It's just so boring to dedicate an hour or more to feeding this empty desire. And it's more and more difficult to climax now. I'm feeling kinda of alone.

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  • Boojum
    4 years ago

    I don't understand how you can identify as "asexual" when you're clearly interested in sex.

    You're obviously free to call yourself whatever you want, but my understanding of asexuality is that it means there is a total lack of any interest in sex in any form.

    You say you can spend an hour pondering how sexually frustrated you feel (or maybe you mean you spend an hour masturbating - it isn't clear), but you don't want to be sexually intimate with another person. That sounds to me more like you have some form of social anxiety, and that makes me suspect that unsatisfied horniness is not your only problem.

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    • Doesnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      That is what I was wondering! I seriously wonder how many people who are 'asexual' get horny and jack off. Like you are still a sex being, so not asexual. But then why is it called that? It is stuff like this that makes me doubt that abybody is truly 100 percent asexual. And like you said, I think the reason here is that she has anxiety and is nervous about sex and relationships, so she wants to disassociate herself with it.

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      • Boojum
        4 years ago

        I guess a lot of people feel that they have to slap a concise label on their forehead. If you're still trying to figure yourself out, that makes some sense, but I believe people are usually too complicated - particularly when it comes to sex - to be summed up with one word.

        I think we may have exchanged views on the topic of asexuality before. For the little it's worth, I'm willing to believe that, just as there are people who are obsessively interested in sex, so there are those who have no interest in it whatsoever. But I also accept that it seems to be a somewhat fashionable title to self-declare at the moment.

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        • Doesnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          I agree that one word is too simple, and most labels do more harm than good. I also suspect that pure asexuality is not a thing. Either that, or it is actually a DRASTICALLY over represented group with very few individuals who fit the description. I don't really have my mind made up, but I am quite skeptical.

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  • litelander8
    4 years ago

    You're over thinking sex all together.

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