Is it normal to go to a strangers funeral

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I was searching my name on google today and and obituary for a woman showed up. I have never met her but I felt an instant connection to this person. I can't really describe why but I feel as if I should know her. She grew up and passed away just miles from where I have lived most of my life. There is a 20 year age difference between us so there is really no reason I should know her.

After reading her obituary and staring at her photo for longer than I feel comfortable with, I have an intense urge to go to her funeral which is tomorrow.

Why would I be drawn to do this? I know it's not normal but can strangers go to a viewing and funeral? Would I stand out doing this?

I never read obituaries. I would never go to a random persons funeral but I feel strongly compelled to do this and I need to know why.

I don't believe in ghost or psychics or any of that stuff and I don't think she is reaching out from the grave but I feel there is a reason I should do this. Yes it freaks me out.

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  • LionsMane
    6 years ago

    I once woke up in the middle of the night to find my TV on in the other room. It was on some overnight religious channel. They would show a specific psalm or passage from the Bible on the screen with a forest or other nice scenery as the background and each psalm would stay on the screen for a good several minutes. I had already kind of been thinking of wanting to start going to church for some reason and I ended up researching this new church that's literally right down the road. I was baffled when I saw that their website had the exact same psalm word for word as a header on their page.

    I went to that church a few times. While nothing materialized in excessive clarity, I do think that God had a plan for me. Sometimes, it's less about it being right in front of your face and more about showing you different things as the pieces are moving in place for something bigger to happen around you as you stay the same.

    Sometime after this all happened, something major actually did occur in my life.

    I would say go if you feel that compelled, just don't expect instant gratification. You may find yourself 3 months from now in a scenario that doesn't make sense but yet feels like it's where you should be. And if you do, stay put.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Well I didn't end up going to either the viewing or the funeral but this thing/feeling, whatever it was kind of shook me. I've been "stuck" in life for a while so maybe it was just me recognizing that through someone elses sudden and untimely death.

      I still feel like I know this person even though I know I don't and it's unsettling.

      Thanks for your response. I think you may have been the only one that understood what I was tryinng to convey. While I'm not one to believe in outside forces being at work it was/is spooky.

      I haven't connected with anyone in quite some time and to feel that with a dead person, of all things, definetly made me take pause.

      I should add that I decided not to go because I think that I can just as easily gain some clarity on the matter by visiting the grave after the funeral services are complete. The cemetary is local and I won't be intruding on anyone.

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  • WeirdoMcWeirdFace
    6 years ago

    My grandmother goes to random funerals as well. I don't think it's normal though.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    Let me clear this up. I assumed and still do, that OP wasnt actually going to go. If they would like to, go for it! But my comment was insincere, but not meant in a mean way.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Forgiven

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    Yes I'm sure they'll love your thoughtfulness

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Don't be a jerk. I don't plan on being disruptive, disrespectful or even talk to anyone. I just need to understand what this is about. I know it's odd.

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      • fakeaccount4
        6 years ago

        Wtf is wrong with you, the guy was being nice. Troll

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          I'm a troll cause I think he was being sarcastic?

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          • SweetSarah
            6 years ago

            Yes I'm sure they'll love your thoughtfulness

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          • SweetSarah
            6 years ago

            The dead are not conscious and know nothing at all.

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  • CapriSun
    6 years ago

    Go dude who cares lol

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  • Justmehere
    6 years ago

    I, personally don't think it's normal, but..People do it, especially in small towns or areas. It's almost like entertainment, something to do..Go see someone for the last time, interact with and comfort family members you don't know, or just be seen. Not my thing, but, to some, it is a thing..

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  • bob7
    6 years ago

    Do it , nothing to lose

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  • redfastlad
    6 years ago

    Well the wake will be a free feed up and some free drinks yes id make one for that

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    • [Old Memory]
      6 years ago

      I go for the food.

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      • BleedingPain
        6 years ago

        They serve food?!

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    sure they are hurting and this is a private thing to them as they bury there loved one . they need a fucking stranger to show up and fucking kill the moment. id call the cops on you in a heartbeat and then sue your ass off in court. Im sure i could find a jury of pissed off voters that had to show up and decide your fate to punish you financially for disrupting my peace. have a nice day asshole. after all you invited my opinion. happy now?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I didn't go, but to answer your tirade it was open to the public so how exactly would that work?

      If I'd have gone no one would know I wasn't just a friend and I would have been respectful.

      Why the hate?

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    • bob7
      6 years ago

      How would you know hes a stranger , maybe hes an old friend ;)

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