Is it normal to give up on relationships cause i have dynamic personality?

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Long term relationships, specifically. Nothing about me is consistent or stable.

One day I am animated and chirpy and laughing
Another day I am quiet and will ignore everyone
One day I am super horny and my weiner's throbbing like a MF
Another day I have a look on my face that says dont you dare invade my personal bubble
One day I feel outgoing and productive
Another day I dont give an F about nothing
One day I'll have sex like a normal boyfriend
Another day I will act like such a rough and inconsiderate wolf in bed that one girl even said "What has gotten into you?"
Etc etc etc

So as much as I desire a long-term relationship... I have decided I shouldnt make a poor girl go through the stress of putting up with someone (me) for her entire life, cause I am so unpredictable and unreliable and mercurial. IIN?

PS: I am 28

YES, it's normal. 14
NO, It's NOT normal. 8
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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    Why don't you work on being more emotionally stable? If it's something you really feel like you can't handle by yourself, get therapy.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I completely agree. I wholeheartedly believe my life could do a world of good if I saw a shrink. But I can't. Money is not the issue, I am. Worst part is I don't entirely know why. If you proved to me right now that I had an actual serious mental disorder, I would say, nah it's all in my mind I'm just being a baby. And automatically start acting absolutely normal

      It's strange

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    OMG I think the problem is that you are a human being!
    Almost everyone has their ups and downs; it just how we control our overt actions that show whether we are adults or immature children.
    Have you ever lived with a girl who was too immature to control the outward signs her PMS? Same, same.
    I've been lucky. 3 wives in LTR and not one allowed her cycle to dictate how she treated those around her. I think you could do it too, if you wished.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I thought you had misunderstood my post until I read the last lines. Keywords: allowed - to - dictate

      It all makes sense. The root cause of my duality and inconsistency has been that I -allow- how I feel to change my perspective, disposition, or action towards something or someone. It almost sounds cowardly. As if a part of me was a kid, and I let that kid act however he felt at any given day. And here I thought I was a logical thinker!

      I do think though that some people are naturally gifted with mental "buffers" while others are not. Seems like I am one of the latter and will have create that buffer out of pretending

      Thank you so much, thegypsysailor

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  • golden_showers
    9 years ago

    How much dope do you do, OP?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      0%

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      • golden_showers
        9 years ago

        0% of what? lol

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        • daydreamer394
          9 years ago

          You, and only you. There has never been anybody but you.

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  • pixie_dust
    9 years ago

    it sounds more like being bipolar than having 'dynamic' personality.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      You would think so, right? But I come across people often labeling it as common and normal human behavior

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      • pixie_dust
        9 years ago

        hmm.. I don't know.. u seem a bit too high strung.. lol

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