Is it normal to get to hot to ejaculate

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So been dating my girlfriend for 4 months now, we both agree we have absolutely amazing sex. Although sometimes I get way too damn hot and find it very difficult to finish. It's really degrading and she thinks its because of her. So she gets quite upset about it also.
Dont really know what to do. I'd open the window if I get too hot, but just stopping midway "just gonna open the window darling" seems a bit weird.

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  • litelander8
    4 years ago

    Your girl shouldn’t be mad that you’re making yourself comfortable. I love a cool breeze.

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Neighbors might have a thing or two to say.

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      • litelander8
        4 years ago

        Such is life. Fuck ‘em.

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        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Chief, my neighbors are dudes.

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  • Aethylfritha
    4 years ago

    Its happened to guys ive been with.

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  • d0esnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Use a fan! My and my gf use two decently strong fans blowing on us at close range. Helps for heat and roomate next door not hearing too much.

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  • JustJazzin
    4 years ago

    I’m surprised.. usually when I’m overheated, I let loose much sooner and better lol

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Proper struggle when I'm hot

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  • Mcochik
    4 years ago

    Yea I would def try a fan same thing happens to me usually if my girl rides me I’ll get up to a body print of sweat on the bed. The only time we both think it’s sexy is if I’m doing her from behind and drip on her ass and her back.

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  • Jennifer21
    4 years ago

    Would a fan help?

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  • Boojum
    4 years ago

    Sounds to me like you're both maybe a bit too goal-orientated, said goal being your ejaculation, and you've got it into your heads that the only "proper" way to achieve that is penis-in-vagina sex in missionary or some other position where you're the one doing all the humping and she's a passive recipient.

    I fully understand the bit about you getting overheated. I've always got kinda sweaty in prolonged sessions unless the room is very cool, and it is very distracting. What I don't understand is why she takes this as some sort of personal insult or something, particularly if you're the one doing all the work and especially so if she's having one or more orgasms. Frankly, it's pretty damn ungrateful and prissy of her if that's what's happening.

    Simple solution is to change things up at least some of the time, so she gets on top and does some of the work for a change. You won't get overheated, your view will be much better than missionary, and she'll be able to move however she likes, so she might enjoy it even more. Hell, she might even get so into it that she breaks a sweat too. If she's just laying there as cool as a cucumber while you're slaving and sweating away, she's not really fully involved in what's going on.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      I'm not normally too bothered about it. Just makes me bothered now I know its bothering her. I'm not goal orientated, but she reckons if I dont nut then theres something wrong with her that I dont like. But I love everything about her! No matter how much I tell her she won't believe me.
      And the heat she does ride on top but I still get hot sometimes, I cant let her do it all sometimes because I get too excited 😂

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      • Boojum
        4 years ago

        "... she reckons if I dont nut then theres something wrong with her that I dont like."

        That's not an uncommon reaction for women to have, mainly because the vast majority of guys _are_ so ejaculation-orientated.

        But that's actually kinda funny, really, since it's also not at all uncommon for women to really enjoy sex even if they don't have an orgasm on a particular occasion. Never having one with a particular guy is something else, but many (maybe most?) women can really enjoy a frantic quickie that's all about the guy getting off, because even though the action doesn't last nearly long enough for her to get off, the fact that she's driven him so frantic is its own sort of kick.

        A great orgasm can make sex wonderful, but there's also a lot of pleasure of a different sort to be had by just messing around with each other, being close and trying to take things slow for as long as possible with the understanding that if it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't, that's cool too.

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