Is it normal to get so anxious when

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Whenever i hear about, see a picture, or even think about a certain ex i get a STRONG wave of anxiety. My heart races painfully, my stomach tightens, occasionally my eyes water up, etc. It's just such a strong feeling stemmed from such small things.

For context, he was my first boyfriend after about 14 months of being single. However we only dated for about one and a half months. He expected nudes of me everyday, and if i told him i wasnt in the mood he'd send pics of himself and keep prying for the pic. I honestly am very bad at saying no so i would give in. We had a mid distance relationship, and i never seen him irl while we dated, but i went to school with him about 2 years prior. He said the moment he got to see me he would fuck me on spot (in summary, these messages were VERY detailed.) he said he would get me in the mood no matter how i felt, blah blah blah etc. i did in fact grow a fear of him. He ended up cheating on me and rubbing it in my face, then the next day coming back and begging for me back.

Thing is, it's been MONTHS and i even have a new bf who i love dearly. But this anxiety and i guess fear of my ex is still very strong. Is this normal?

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  • PassengerPigeon
    4 years ago

    Maybe you should consider contacting a therapist. if this is impairing your daily life or causing you frequent distress, it'll be near impossible to "Just move on bc that guy was an asshole". Reach out and talk to people who can help you handle this. I hope things will turn up for you.

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  • cupcake_wants
    4 years ago

    This guy is just a creep. Just move on with your life. It's good you have somebody that is nice now.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Obviously you are still hung up on this asshole to some degree, but my question is why? This guy sounds like a real piece of shit to tell the truth. I think you need to try to determine why you are still stuck on this guy? He's like the sticky bit of dog shit that you just can't get off the bottom of your shoe.

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  • momwatcher69
    4 years ago

    I'm not understanding: "he was my first boyfriend after about 14 months of being single" .... (what?) If he was your 1st boyfriend, that means you were single, your whole life....?

    Also: "i never seen him irl while we dated"

    And: "we only dated for about one and a half months"

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