Is it normal to get sick of people expecting you to want kids?

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In the last two years I've had four boyfriends. Each wants kids. That's fine. I have no illusions about relationships at my age lasting. And I'm frank about not wanting kids. But each guy thinks he'll convince me otherwise. WTF? Why can't we just hang out, have fun, and understand we're likely to go on with our separate lives? Why are kids the-big-conversation?

And what's up with parents and grandparents always dropping hints about the future and MY WOMB dropping out a kid? Why does society expect that just 'cause I'm a chick I've gotta pop out, what?, the 7-billionth human being?

Are there any other girls out there who already KNOW they don't want kids, and are sick of others making them feel like a monster for being honest?

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  • dirtybirdy
    7 years ago

    Annoying and rude, isn't it? I was with a guy for a long time and his parents had like 6 little granddaughters and they'd often ask me when I was going to give them a grandson because I was the last hope. Uhhh, never!

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    • AB1234
      7 years ago

      I guess people like that have never heard of adoption...

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    • Jujudog
      7 years ago

      how inconsiderate of you! You were their last hope. at the very least you could have popped out a little lad and legged it!

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      • dirtybirdy
        7 years ago

        I know, I'm a bad birdy. I'm just too selfish I guess. Shame on me!

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  • bucketfullofbuttholes
    7 years ago

    I'm a guy and I don't even want to get married, let alone have annoying kids.

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    • AB1234
      7 years ago

      Smart move. Very, very smart move.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    If I were you I would make it clear as possible to my significant other that I don't want kids. I think it's unhealthy when a person assumes that that he or she can change another person's mind. I think it would be ideal if you could find someone you love who would accept you whether you wanted kids or not, or rather someone flexible about the issue of children.

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    • AB1234
      7 years ago

      Yes, that'd be ideal. But every guy I meet is gung-ho about eventually have a family. Which I don't mind because I'm not remotely thinking of settling down.

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  • Mytwin295
    7 years ago

    There are 3 reasons why I want kids.
    1) Its a test to see if I can physically have one.
    2) I want to be able to pass down my awesome genes/traits (or not so awesome to others).
    3) I think I would make a good mom in the future.

    Thay being said, kids are not for everyone and its nobody's buisness but yours to make that decision.

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  • i_embarass_myself_daily
    7 years ago

    I´ve felt this way ever since I was 12. I´m 20 now and my mind has not changed. And my best friend is of the same opinion. It´s normal not to want kids. My whole family knows this and they seem to be okay with this (or maybe still think I´ll change my mind)

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  • Tehboss
    7 years ago

    Fuck people that think you need to change how you feel now OR in the future.
    If you don't want to have kids that is your right and has long has you are clear about that people should stfu and respect that either by staying with you and respecting that or to gtfo.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    I know I don't want kids and I'm not going to have any simple as that. If its a deal breaker for a guy then bye. Its my body and I'll do with it as I please.

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  • RoyRogers
    7 years ago

    If you dont want kids that badly than its a deal breaker. Explain to them you wont have kids and if they cant accept it then its over.

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  • sunshinemoonlight
    7 years ago

    I think it's just that most parents want their kids to be happy and raise good families of their own, plus they probably would love to have grandchildren too.

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  • Fenrirr
    7 years ago

    have a child then sacrifice them to the sun god by throwing the baby in a pit of fire in front of your family

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    • AB1234
      7 years ago

      Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat??

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  • TRUMPTRAIN
    7 years ago

    Wait, you think those 7 billion babies were planned ? They were mostly mistakes, most people don't want babies but they happen anyways

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    • AB1234
      7 years ago

      Hmmmmm. I agree with you on both accounts. Most people just HAVE kids (a questionable at best practice), and despite how ga-ga the world seems over kids, I think a lot of people who have kids didn't actually want to become parents.

      But especially in the West where we have planned parenthood..., there's a lot of, "so, in order to become a truly respectable, valid adult, you have to procreate."

      Drives me nuts.

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      • TRUMPTRAIN
        7 years ago

        You have it backwards. 'Planned parenthood' is for irresponsible people who made bad decisions. In the West we are considered responsible if we do NOT procreate

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        • Ellenna
          7 years ago

          Planned Parenthood INCLUDES planning to have no kids

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          • TRUMPTRAIN
            7 years ago

            Planned parenthood is mostly for abortions...

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            • wigz
              7 years ago

              No it's not. They actually prevent a shit ton of abortions by offering reasonably priced or free access to exams and birth control. Abortions make up a tiny percent of the services they offer and many locations don't even offer abortions.

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            • Ellenna
              7 years ago

              And contraception so abortions aren't necessary

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        • AB1234
          7 years ago

          I admit I don't know the statistics on that, but I've done a lot of volunteer work with PP on both the West and East Coasts. The centers I'm familiar with do tremendous education outreach. The majority of girls my age visiting the centers I've worked at are getting tested, picking up info, speaking to counselors about what NOT to do, and exploring options about lifestyle changes if they have kids.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      It doesn't have to be that way these days

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    • Thorolf
      7 years ago

      Why we need plenty of planned parenthood.

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  • Thorolf
    7 years ago

    I'm not a girl, but I totally get you. I really don't want to have kids either but people, especially my mate, seem to expect me to.

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  • shuggy-chan
    7 years ago

    No were in your story today see your age. So I don't know fucking answer properly

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    • AB1234
      7 years ago

      Ouch. I'm 19, but why would that matter? I won't want kids in 20 years or 30, either.

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      • shuggy-chan
        7 years ago

        Sorry i was apparently super tired when i posted, cause my grammer is terrible.

        But i was asking merely for prospective. Of you age and the age of the guys you are dating.
        But ultimately it is your choice

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        • AB1234
          7 years ago

          Thanks.

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  • NathanScot
    7 years ago

    Its definitely your choice love...but just keep in mind a lot of people who didn't want kids but got them accidentally always end falling inlove with their children and would never take it back.I suppose its one of those situations you can't tell how you feel until you are actually in it.

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    • AB1234
      7 years ago

      Come on, Nathan. With the number of child abuse and neglect cases in the USA alone, you seriously think people "always end falling in love with their children"? There are websites devoted to parents who regret becoming parents--both men and women. We're expected to fall in love with our children, but I don't think it's a given at all.

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