Is it normal to genuinely be in love with an imaginary man?

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Am i crazy? Ive had this imaginary "friend" ive been in love with for years. Probably about three years now. Ive been in "things" with real life guys but never a real relationship... But this guy i have in my head, anytime im alone i think about him, i think about him before i go to bed, i think about him when i masturbate, hes just always there. He has a name and a story and i have our whole lives together planned out... Someone please tell me what the hell is wrong with me!?

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    How do you know he's imaginary? How did you come to know him?

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  • Arm0se
    9 years ago

    You need to abandon this imaginary boyfriend. If you ever find a real guy who's genuinely nice and all, you may push him away because he's not quite the same as this imaginary boy you associate yourself with.

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    • jojo338955701
      9 years ago

      Yeah this something i definitely considered and worried about. But ive like real men before so idk??

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  • squirrelgirl
    9 years ago

    I've had imaginary friends for pretty much my entire life. It may not be normal for most of society but it's always been a normal part of my own life. Real relationships are really hard work, and imaginary friends are not demanding. They also can't abandon you or harm you. If you don't want to bother with real men (and I definitely don't blame you if you feel that way), I say stick with your imaginary boyfriend. Chivalry is dead anyway.

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    • jojo338955701
      9 years ago

      Haha this made me feel better. For now im not interested in dating but think i will in the future!

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    I think having an imaginary friend/love is either a coping mechanism for something or a form of escapism.

    Eh, to be honest I think this is fine as long as you don't throw out opportunities just because of your imaginary man.

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    • jojo338955701
      9 years ago

      Yeah i agree on both parts

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  • Couman
    9 years ago

    It's not NORMAL, but I can see definite advantages.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    It must really suck to date you.
    I can imagine the frustration some nice guy, who really would like to get to know you, must feel competing with your imaginary love.
    Sad girl, pretty damn sad.

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    • jojo338955701
      9 years ago

      Chill. Ive actually liked and taken interests in REAL men its just something i think about when im alone.

      Also, you honestly thinking im telling men about this? How stupid can you get. Now move along please, because whats sad to me is seeing "thegypsysailor" comment on literaly every single post on this website. At least i have a life.

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        I'm sure you don't have to tell them anything, ms brilliant. They get the idea pretty quickly unless they are completely insensitive, that they will never measure up to your ideal.
        What life is that sweetie? The one you admittedly have with your imaginary lover? Oh, what a life it must be. Yep, a very, very sad way to live.
        At least my life and wife are real, not imagined.

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        • jojo338955701
          9 years ago

          Ok

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  • horny_simpletons
    9 years ago

    Hi :)

    How old are you? I'm just curious, not saying it matters though. You're never really "too old" for this as long as you only do it when you're alone, and it wouldn't stop you from pursuing a real guy you like. Anyway, I ask because I like to imagine what a certain fictional boy would look like if he was real and about my age. I'm 23 btw. I'd say it's harmless; I have a real life crush, and besides the fact that he doesn't initiate contact much, we're cool. I just don't want to feel like I'm weird lol

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    That's not love!

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  • loonylightsgood
    9 years ago

    i had one. for a looong time it feels. i think i stopped thinking about them when i was about 16. for some reason i just stopped thinking about them. and i pushed them away, subconsciously. every once and a while they'll pop up. and i feel bad because i feel like im using them and just thinking of my imaginary friend when it is convenient for me. and you see this is when it gets too weird. his name was Simon, btw. honestly i think he was my ideal example of a perfect person for me. although i made him up with a lot of flaws. when i was younger i thought i was a total freak and disliked myself for having an imaginary boyfriend so intensely. so i became a writer. something like this shows you have a bright mind, you should put it to work :)

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    • jojo338955701
      9 years ago

      Wow, thanks! I've gotten "you should start writing" A LOT but I suck at it lol. But it's awesome that you're able to use writing as an oulet

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  • Blue_Velvet
    9 years ago

    That's sad, get out there and get yourself a real boyfriend.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    It may happen that you will never get a real boyfriend. If that's true, an imaginary boyfriend is fine.

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  • Gavin0420
    9 years ago

    its your perfect man in your head in your dream life you wish for this man I use to kind of still do that I dream of my perfect man. there's nothing wrong with you.
    Love ya
    Gavin,

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    • jojo338955701
      9 years ago

      Thank you!

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      • Gavin0420
        9 years ago

        no problem
        love ya
        Gavin,

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I had an imaginary girlfriend for a few years when I was a teenager. The dumb thing is that I had her because I couldn't get laid, but even when pretty girls started asking me out, I turned them down because I was too much in love with my imaginary girlfriend.

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    • jojo338955701
      9 years ago

      Damn. Do you still think about your imaginary girlfriend now?

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        No. It was hard, but we broke up. In fact, we did that a few times because I kept going back to her. Eventually, I got over her.

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  • Freedom_
    9 years ago

    I don't know, but there is a guy on here with an imaginary wife.

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