Is it normal to forget important past relationships?

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I've been happily married to the love of my life for over a year now.

The previous big relationship that I had prior to meeting my wife took place a few years ago and lasted about 4 years. We lived together and, at the time, assumed we were going to be together forever.

However, once we split up I realized how toxic that relationship was and how unhappy I was the entire time. I find myself trying to think of events that took place during those 4 years, good and bad, and I find it very hard to find any memories. I remember a few things, but I definitely don't have 4 years worth of memories.

Is this normal? Is my mind blocking out that time of my life because I am so happy now?

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Based on 21 votes (18 yes)
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  • dasugaknows
    9 years ago

    Completely normal. We tend to forget bad things in our lives and try to remember mostly good.

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  • MoonlightSin
    9 years ago

    You Feel like that because your head feels like that whole relationship was all bullshit. And because you feel that it's not worthy of being remembered. But as you said, it could also be because youre incredibly happy right now. I congratulate you. Wish you the best!

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  • RainbowDischarge
    9 years ago

    I reeeeeally hope I can also forget my 5 year relationship as easy as you were able to forget yours. I have never been through a break up like this and it's sucking some major balls. I'm happy for you though. What did you do in the years after the break up and before you met your current wife?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Yeah it can be tough. I wish you luck :)

      For the few years between relationships I dabbled in some dating but not much. For the most part I just focused on my career and friends and family. Then eventually I met my wife and I knew right away I wanted to be with her for the rest of my life.

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    • shuggy-chan
      9 years ago

      Well im trying to distract you with silly shuggy antics as best as i can to help =O

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      • RainbowDischarge
        9 years ago

        I love coming on here reading your comments!!! Thank you for being an awesome shuggy!

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        • shuggy-chan
          9 years ago

          pfffft cut it out, your gonna make me blush, dont you know its hard to look manly and cool when your blushing?

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          • RainbowDischarge
            9 years ago

            I didnt know, gomenasai senpai!!

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            • shuggy-chan
              9 years ago

              (hehe she called me awesome) *cough cough* you better be sorry *makes a manly pose, staring stoically in the wind*

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  • Short4Words
    9 years ago

    Consider yourself blessed.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Yeah, understandable. I hardly ever think of my second ex husband.

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  • JD777
    9 years ago

    Sounds normal and fortunate if it was a generally bad part of your life.

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