Is it normal to forever commit to your love?

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Is it normal if I never want to be with someone ever again if my bf and I break up? I seriously can't find anyone else matched to him. I'm sure hes not perfect but hes perfect for me. I love him and it breaks me that we might not be as compatible as I wish so it might not work out in the end. Right now we are rocky and on the verge of separating but I am determined to save our relationship. However, I do feel like I've tried enough times already that this time it's time to accept it and move on. I'm more relaxed about it as opposed to before where I was desperate to save us and depressed if it wasn't going to work. I am still depressed and sad but I just feel like I will forever commit to him as in never date or get with someone again. It would take a miracle, a really special guy to make me get over him. I dont think I can be with someone official again unless they make me feel like he makes me feel which I doubt. He's seriously my ideal guy, he just came in probably at the wrong time. So I feel like at this point, I'm just going to sit back, possibly wait for him and hope we eventually get back together officially and in a healthy way. Even if I find someone else, my heart will always belong to him. I dnt think its fair for that person so thats also why I think Im just gonna be single forever then if I can't be with him.

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thegypsysailor

8 years ago

There are thousands of really special guys out there. You'll see.

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- flamer180
  
  8 years ago
  
  dont break their love, it sounds special
  
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    8 years ago
    
    If you say so. I'm glad my relationship isn't that special.
    
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    - flamer180
      
      8 years ago
      
      relationship with your trolling self? lol
      
      n you could try to make it special ;)
      
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      - thegypsysailor
        
        8 years ago
        
        Please tell me you aren't another jealous child who couldn't get laid in a whorehouse with a fist full of hundred dollar bills. There are already so many virgin losers on this site.
        It's not the being a virgin that makes them losers, it's coming on here crying about it rather than spending the same amount of time doing something about it.
        
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        wigz
        
        8 years ago
        
        "It's not the being a virgin that makes them losers"
        
        OK...
        
        "doing something about it."
        
        Oh...
        
        Well clearly you do think negatively about people who haven't had sex. It's something that must be rectified ASAP!
        
        You can't not contradict yourself even within one single post. Good job!
        
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        flamer180
        
        8 years ago
        
        I AM TRYING TO SAVE LOVE. I BELIEVE IN LOVE. Which means TRYING To make a relationship WORK
        
        Why do you believe YOUR relationship hasnt worked? lol
        
        I believe your mad that I hit a sensitive spot on you lol You probaley didnt like the fact that I said you were trolling on the internet.
        
        I have nothing against you. You can waste your time just as me on the internet as well.
        
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mysistersshadow

8 years ago

There are alot of fish in the sea give it time you'll find another one.

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dytrog

8 years ago

To many people look for the true perfect "real love"
It does not exist. Many mistake love for sex and a fun person. It wears off with time. If your lucky you still love the person and they are your best friend. Not the mad passionate kind of when it started.

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BlackyHancock

8 years ago

Everyone says that when they're young and in love, but give it a few years and you'll most likely find someone even better. You'll wonder, "What was I even thinking?"

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Well I dont know, it doesn't seem like it according to some people here who are now in their 40s and 50s and older. I dont think Ill ever have that "what was I thinking" attitude because Ive thought about it hard and long enough and Ill know why I put myself through so much for him. I'm not gonna look back with resentment. I'll either be happy with someone else and always love him or I'll always long for him and have hope.
  
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  - BlackyHancock
    
    8 years ago
    
    I think it also depends on how old you are to be able to say what you've said with confidence.
    
    If you're still in your late teens or 20's I think it's too early to say this guy is the 'one and only'.
    
    If you're in your 30's or 40's... and have had a few great relationships... well maybe. I remember saying pretty much the same thing as you when I was 21.
    
    But the nature of love, life and human beings is that true love is possible with more than one person in life.
    
    If you and this guy are so perfect for each other, then why are you breaking up? Or are you both not committed enough to it to actually make it work?
    
    Any relationship can work if you love each other enough and both want to make it work. People break up way too easy these days.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      Age is really nothing but a number. You can't quite judge someone's maturity based on age but more on experience and attitude. And for me, I may be young (mid-twenties) but I have a great outlook on life and there's just so much crap in this world that I've learned to protect myself from conforming or getting brainwashed. What you just said in your last sentence is exactly how I think. People break up way too easily nowadays so thats why I'm saying I love him so much that I have hope, just cause things aren't working out doesn't mean I'm just gonna leave him. If he was just a bf and I didn't have these feelings, then yeah I'd walk away but because I guess I'm old-school, I am willing to wait it out and work it out. Not just jump to the next one.
      
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      - flamer180
        
        8 years ago
        
        if you dont mind my curiosity lol what religion are you?
        
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      - flamer180
        
        8 years ago
        
        THANK GOODNESS YOU REVEALED SOME SORT OF PERSONAL INFORMATION XOOOOOOOO
        
        Now I can rest knowing you're NOT the girl Im thinking of. Since you're in your mid-twenties, and the girl I want isnt.
        
        He should be happy to have you :) You sound like a great girl ;)
        
        That really is what love is about, sticking with a person even though they may not be perfect and trying to help each other.
        Something some people dont know how to do these days.
        
        Im glad theres people who believe in love these days or else the world would be shit by now
        
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  - flamer180
    
    8 years ago
    
    By what you say, he sounds like he's made for you <3
    
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- flamer180
  
  8 years ago
  
  Not every guy is the same. Everyone is different. Theres different guys out there who WONT get along with her as much as this guy seems too.
  
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IMissMary

8 years ago

You say "Even if I find someone else, my heart will always belong to him".

It sounds cliche and corny when people say that, but in some cases its true. I broke up with someone nearly 20 years ago and am still connected to them.

Search IIN for "Long Lost Love" and read my story.

Good luck but remember it takes two and it takes time...Love is something that forces us to become better people in order to share...ie the better person you are inside and your partner is inside the easier it is to share love. Otherwise it really just won't work if you can not commit to making yourselves better people.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  I know its corny but its true.
  
  And yes it does take two which is the problem I'm facing. He doesn't seem to be as into it as I am but my love for him doesn't care, its there no matter what striving to be togetheras long as possible.
  
  And yes that is also true. To me he's already perfect but that doesn't mean I don't notice his flaws which I can probably help him with by being accepting and being there for him but he won't give me a chance. I don't know if it's because he doesn't think I'm good enough to help him or because of pride that prevents him to be vulnerable and look helpless. Not sure if he refuses to look helpless. I wish he can give me a chance though. He inspires me to be better and I wish I did the same for him
  
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  - IMissMary
    
    8 years ago
    
    If he is not on board then there is really nothing you can do...you can't fix people and you can't force them to go down a road they are not ready for.
    
    Although me and Mary are twin flames. In this life we are just not compatible because we are spiritually in two different places. I love her more than I can describe, but I had to move on with my life.
    
    FWIW, I can tell you that we can and do have more than one soul mate. We have spiritual connections with many people, not all of which we are meant to have romantic relationships with... However, being human we tend to naturally go the romantic route when we love someone.
    
    A small story. I was married once to someone I should have never been with on every level. But looking back I can see I was a blessing for her that she would have never gotten otherwise. Anyways, I was stuck in that marriage do to religious beliefs, fear, commitment issues etc. Until I met someone who was meant for me, we had a very strong spiritual connection. Long story short, she set me free. I loved her too, but it was obvious to both of us that we met to provide something to each other on a spiritual level, not to be partners. So we moved apart and our spirits became stronger and more focused because we met.
    
    Lesson to take away. Life is short, not everyone we meet during our lifetime is meant to be a life partner although we can love them.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      Actually I think I understand what you're saying and I think I'm planning on pursuing that. I feel like you and someone else can have that special chemistry but as for a relationship, it may not work. Therefore, you guys keep in touch or not but at a distance with that chemistry still there. I think it makes sense because I love him and I'm in love with him. He makes me smile no matter what. But as a couple, were not compatible or at least at the moment. So I think it feels better if we stay apart but still maintain that spark by contacting each other every now and then. IT's almost like flirting with your crush and never getting together, except we have been together but if things don't work out, then we'll basically be staying in touch but not official. It might be a problem when others come into the picture especially on his side. It will bother me and hurt me but Ill just have to be strong with myself. When it comes to someone else with me, I dont know this might be weird but Ill feel bad for him (my current bf) like I feel sorry Im dating someone else. Its almost like feeling guilty but I know I shouldn't. For sure though, I'm not gonna feel as satisfied.
      
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      - flamer180
        
        8 years ago
        
        I actually have no idea what Mary is saying with chemistry XD haha
        
        Please just tell me your name. The suspense of this thread is too much.
        
        I am in a similar situation and you might actually be the person who I want too Xo
        It's crazy BUT PLEASE :o tell me your first name
        
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  - flamer180
    
    8 years ago
    
    awwww see that sounds sweet :) beautiful actually, i think sweet is not good enough of a word lol
    
    awww he inspires you :)
    
    lol dont mind me over here, but what you have sounds special ;)
    
    im curious if your willing to tell me, whats his name?
    n btw, your love for him isnt corny :P
    
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- flamer180
  
  8 years ago
  
  I do agree with you though, that people should try to help each other in a relationship :) if it's needed anyway
  
  people should try to stick together
  
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- flamer180
  
  8 years ago
  
  it's not corny lol, it's special and beautiful :) <3
  
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flamer180

8 years ago

awwww that sounds sweet :)
what true love sounds like to me <3

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